Well,I was trying to find an assisted living place for my mom..we had a Goold assessment at our house.She has moderate dementia and frequent UTI's which are devastating for her and us. My sister has the power of attorney which we just found out will not give her any power unless mom is deemed incompetent by 2 shrinks. Now I am well, stuck in a very difficult situation. My mother does not take care of herself, does not help out at all.I also take care of my 5 grandkids and school is almost out. There is no help available, as she has too much money in her IRA. I tried a lady in but she locks the door and won't let her in her room. Any ideas??? I have not been alone with my husband in 6 months....hopeless feeling some days.