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I am a recovering caregiver. When your world is focused on those you care for it is very difficult to make yourself a priority. But, you should be. I cared for my mom with Alzheimer's Disease for four years. That ended, due to dysfunctional family dynamics, two years ago. I am still recovering and each day try to do something for me.

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Today? I used to love working in my yard, it was a lot of work, great exercise. And I don't need to join a gym. Couldn't do it while caring for mom. She always wanted to help. It was not safe for her, she would get dizzy and overheated. This weekend, six years later, I spent the day in the yard. A house I rent, pulling weeds on a neglected yard. Nothing better than being able to admire the fruits of that labor. It will probably not be until August or so. But, it will be great!

Going to see mom tomorrow. She is on hospice and near the end.
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I like this idea for a thread, Glad!

I had planned a small fire and s'mores for the grandkids last night, and ended up with a yard full when DD brought friends and their kids home. I didn't mind much, but just would have preferred a quiet evening. I'm glad I had the supplies to make s'mores for everyone, they had fun, no one stepped in unseen dog doo (I clean up every other day, but it seems there's always some that escapes me!), and no one fell into the fire pit. Considering that one of the guest kids was what my ex would call a "hot ball of wax", I guess that's all that matters!

Today I went and got groceries, a few things for upcoming trips, and on the way home, decided to take the long way and just enjoy a little more time to myself. I rode out through the country and up and down a few country roads before finally heading home. Made one small wrong turn and ended up on a road that runs through the middle of a CAFO farm, which smelled to high heaven - I forgot where that road lead to. It was bad, but not as bad as it sometimes is, when it's been hot for weeks - then it's enough to make your eyes water. Enjoyed my ride, though. Splurged a little and bought a scented wax warmer and some scented wax cubes (which I paid for and promptly left behind, so I have to go back and get them tomorrow - another trip out of the house for me -ha!).
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Today I did nothing. Absolutely nothing. And I had a glorious time doing it - sat on the deck in the shade - 85 degrees out. As to not be a total loss, I did exercise my arm a time or two as I lit a smoke...
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CAFO? Lots of those here too. Maybe the scented wax is to help the car recover? And doing absolutely nothing is great too!

And smores? And you actually had Graham crackers, marshmallows, Hershey bars and a fire to cook those marshmallows on? Absolutely amazing and wonderful fun!
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CAFO is a confined animal feeding operation?
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I am sipping a Miller Lite while reading this and thinking about if I want to read or watch one of the old Agents of Shield shows. Earlier today I went for a walk, but after spending the morning on heels, that really wasn't so enjoyable. My feet hurt even in my Nikes.
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I prefer the MGD especially after the yard work! And my feet feel like they are burning.
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I had to look up MGD. :)

My feet let me know that I'm 65 now. I think I need to ditch the heels and start with orthopedic shoes. I wish I liked yard work. People look so happy planting and seeing their beautiful things grow. Sometimes I plant things, but they die quickly. Definite brown thumb here. I tried to grow some kale and parsley for the rabbits once, but the squirrels and cats laid waste to the garden quickly. After watching the stray cats pooping in the garden I would have been scared to give the food to the rabbits. No telling what kind of parasite might be in it.
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Ahh, Jess, just another variety of fertilizer. Have tried to grow tomatoes so many times. Each time a failure. But, I am trying again. We will see. So many seeds to plant. But I was not going to try tomatoes from seed.

They make a mgd lite version too. Cannot find it here though.
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Ah! Tomatoes. I can grow them until the big wooly booger worms strike. Those hornworms are terrifying.

I was reading a thing on how Native Americans used to plant corn, beans, and squash together. Corn takes a lot of nitrogen, which the beans provide. And the squash covers the ground, keeping the weeds out. Maybe squash would also keep the cats and squirrels out.
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Don't count on the squash keeping squirrels away. I had one that ate a Halloween pumpkin once. LOL! But beer in a saucer in the garden will take care of those tomato worms. 😁
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Ohhh! I loved a MGD after - and during - a sunny day in the garden! Alas, I've had to give up alcohol because of a the pain meds I take. Don't want to end up in a coma, don't cha know! Actually - all it does is make me fall asleep and I already have enough struggle with that between 4-7pm as it is!
But on a rare occasion I plan it out - it takes a couple days of absolutely no physical exertion, and I skip a dose - and have one beer. Heaven!
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Great, rainmom. I think microbrews are highly overrated. I like knowing what to expect in taste and have the beer light enough that I can drink it while it is still cold.😝
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Yup, you guessed right on the CAFO - it's a Concentrated (or Confined) Animal Feeding Operation. They stink to the high heavens.

Yes, we had s'mores! Complete with graham crackers, those big square marshmallows that are made just for s'mores and Hershey bars. DD tossed some Reese's cups into the mix for those who wanted them. I didn't eat any (trying to stay away from sweets as much as possible) but the kids sure enjoyed them. My job was putting marshmallows on the forks and pulling them off to assemble the s'mores. LOL

Today, my "me" thing was working on cleaning out the garage. Sounds silly, but it made me feel good to make a little progress.
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Square marshmallows?! Never heard of such a thing. It has been many years since I have even been around smores. Must put that on my bucket list to do with the grandson!
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For myself today I had breakfast with a girlfriend. We chatted for hours and didn't leave the diner until lunchtime! We nearly stayed and ordered again but instead, made plans for breakfast on Friday.
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Not sure the link will stay here, but I'll send it to you via PM, Glad, so you can see them. They're called Kraft StackerMallows - square, kind of flat, and made just for s'mores. They're slightly smaller than a graham cracker square, so they're perfect!
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Today I did a little more work on the RV. I'll get a few hours on Friday..I will finish the insulation.

This is a bit of what I do everyday. Research in the evenings. Do some hands on work a couple times a week. Dream of the travels I will have when it is done.
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Didn't really do something for "me" today, but it made me feel good anyway. Took the dog to get his nails trimmed at the groomer - long overdue, but not to the point of pain or danger for him - just longer than I like them for the safety of my hardwood floors! He was overjoyed at the prospect of a ride - not so much when he realized where we were going. LOL He's a big fraidy cat when it comes to the vet or the groomer. I wash/groom him myself, because he's so old that I don't think he'd handle the grooming process very well and might nip at someone out of fear. He turns into a quaking, shivering mess when I just take him to get his nails done - I can't imagine a full grooming. At his age, I don't think I want to subject him to too much trauma.

Felt good to get it done and out of the way for upcoming travel. Now I just have to bathe him. :-)
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