I am not new to caregiving. 6 years ago I was taking care of my mother and grandmother (while also working and going to school full-time) and did it all with ease and very little frustration. fast forward six years and now I am taking care of my father and get frustrated with him very easily. He is home (living with me) after nearly 3 months in the hospital and rehab for a colon surgery and heart attack. he has no strength or endurance and is entirely incontinent all issues that i dealt with in the past with my mom or grandmom, but now i get frustrated easily with is inability and unwillingness to try to help himself, but feel guilty because i didn't have these issues when caring for my mom. i don't want him to feel like i love him any less than i did my mom, but caring for him seems to be so much more of a burden. how do i reconcile the feelings or address them with him, so he doesn't feel like i'm don't love him? any suggestions would be helpful and most appreciated.