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Did your dad give him poa? Does your dad have his senses,? If your dad gave him poa do you have copy? Take to attorney and get advice. We made mistake of putting 1 brother in poa for mom and he suckered her into thinking noone else wanted to put up with her so he had her sign deed to house over to him, anyways if you think he is abusing your dad call elder abuse hotline for dads town and keep calling police, because we were told poa brother could lock us out.
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Since and Only because YOU will NOT be believed, Nor will have the Support, both Emotionally as well as physically, You should be calling the Women's National Coalition against Domestic Violence, And, for FLA... "Florida Coalition against Domestic Violence, Not only will it be kept "Confidential" for You, but they are probably the Only ones that will Believe you as well as have your back! But if it were me, I would "absolutely" be telling them that your brother has threatened to harm you.
You see, Once You have knowlege of a situation, particularly a Harmful one, whether it be emotional or physically, YOU ARE NOW RESPONSIBLE for Reporting it! And if one agency, or in this case a 911 doesn't take you seriously, You have the Responsibility to find a Place or a Person that will! And,
the Coalition for Violence will listen. And then You HAVE to Call Ombudsman to also explain and to Protect your father, emotionally, physically, as well as
financially. But "I" would first Start with the Coalition against Violence for Women first, if that were me. It would allow me to Finally "Vent" with People I
could Trust, and those who would FINALLY "Believe" me!! And 'that,' is what YOU need right now too! You can't go on like this and your brother is nothing but a BULLY and the longer you wait on this, the Longer You, as well as your Dad, will continue to be Bullied. Once again, knowing this, YOU now have the RESPONSIBILITY of doing this Now! Please keep us updated!
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Lildebb39,
I wish you luck...I just have had so many other things to deal with, along with this situation, that I was beginning to get sick, depressed, etc. I'm sure I will have to revisit all of this again because as long as my mom is alive they will create drama.
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Saphire51,
I can pass a background test, easily. I worked as Grant Administrator and Police Accreditation Specialist for many years. Had to pass extensive background to be considered for employment.
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Llcrss,
This week has been very tough. I too decided that I would just let it go and just stay away, since I seem to be the cause of all the drama! However; that will not fly with me. I am my father's only advocate! My adopted brother is the cause of ALL THE PROBLEMS, BUT MY 63YEAR OLD UNCLE HAS ALLOWED MY BROTHER TO EFFECT MY UNCLE'S JUDGEMENT!
I was not even given a chance, and that is pathetic. Instead of just giving up and staying away...I am looking for a GREAT ATTY! I want to get custody/guardianship of dad and take care of him from here on out. My dad is all I have left and I know that it is going to be difficult, but I am up for the challenge! I have seen him at his worst and his best. But regardless, he is my dad!! My husband maybe retiring in a couple years, Command list comes out this week. So after 25 years..... This is one for household six!!
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Go for guardianship even if you have to make payments to the lawyer. If you do get domestic violence charges against your sibling they won't be able to challenge you and you will get guardianship without contest. I had to do this with my brother and with just myself and the attorney in court, it was easy. As long as you can pass the criminal background check.
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Wish you could tell me who that agency is...I began to feel like people think I'm the one who's nuts because people have a hard time believing family can be so cruel and selfish.
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wow! I have had same type of experience! The Cops.... and the authority figures that are suppose to help keep us safe are a joke!!! Sorry to say, if there are no serious injuries such as a river of blood or broken bones, and it is a "he said, she said" type of incident, the cops do not want to touch it with a 10ft pole.

I had to research and find the right Elder Care Atty and agencies to help. This also means, protecting yourself from backlash from the not so nice "family" involved bc they will come after you out of their own greed.

Try to find, one person, agency, that will show you compassion and help you set things right for your Dad.
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I worked in a Police Department for for years and just the text message sent to me from my brothers boss, would qualify as simple assault by threat.
I do not want to cause problems.....I just want to see and spend time with my dad!
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I was also a military spouse, so love to you for that.
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The only way to take complete control of the situation is to become the guardian. I decided not to do this because it would costs over $1500 to hire an attorney. The nursing home in my situation said they could not ban my sister from coming to the nursing while I am visiting, even though she caused my mom to become upset as well as other patients who witnessed her husband using profanity in the day room. I also contacted an ombudsman for a mediation and the siblings would not show up . The ombudsman told me that unless I get my mom declared incompetent, I cannot control the siblings from coming. "I" will have to be the one who walks away if they show up. I have done everything, but I didn't get any help from anyone. It's very frustrating. If you want to pursue legal action for assault you can, but to change the course you will probably have to do guardianship. Have as much documentation as you can to prove your case
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Scared, I was told by the Officer, that the Prosecutor will not look at any case unless they are seriously hurt. My brother walks around talking about shooting people.....for no reason. So now you know why I was scared!
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When I called the Police, I was not listed on the report? I was told it was a civil matter. My Uncle showed up and bailed my brother out.
I was locked in my car and the Officers' never came back to talk with me.
My father has Dementia and I am usually the one that takes care of him. My Uncle , the POA has been talking to my father about how he does not like me. Ironically, I have not spent time with him for 17 years. I have been married , raising my own family and being a military spouse. That family never gave me a chance and I have been so hurt by them and their actions.
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Call the ElderAbuse Hotline and report what happened. And what do you mean by stating that nothing happened when you dialed 911? Did they not show up or did they do nothing once you got there? You can go to the station and talk to a cop. They can talk to you about your options and also explain what they need to intervene. I agree with the other that hiring a lawyer is a good idea.
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Forgot to mention I could have pressed charges for assault but because my sister is 15 years my senior, I couldn't go through with it. I really should have. She ended up telling everyone I hit her! My mom was the only one in the room when it happened and she can't communicate well because of her dementia. My mom was crying and so upset and told my sister to stop upsetting me, but my mom isn't able to definitively answer questions.
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I had to call police on an older sister who hit me beside the head over her anger that she wants me to move my mom closer to me so she doesn't have to visit her! The nursing home or police were no help. I have contacted numerous attorneys over this plus harassing texts and emails from a brother. I am POA along with the brother, but he has robbed my mom over the years. Good luck...I've finally tried to just let it go, I avoid them and continue to visit my mom and I am the primary contact for her care. Screw all of these mean, greedy people. Their day is coming!
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Yes, get an attorney and surely something is very wrong if the police won't help you.
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Something is not right here. What did the police report state and what was the reason your brother was not arrested for assault?
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Consult an eldercare attorney.

I'm sorry you are going through this.
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