I feel more like uselessdeb than deblove. My Mom is in an idependent living home. She is now, not happy with the food, the maid, etc. She's says I'm her Mommy now. I don't like it, I'm sorry. I feel guilt because I'm angry. It's just too much for me. She is totally dependent on me, emotionally. I just can't do it. The doctor tested her for dementia and Alzheimer's and she passed the test. He told her she was doing great for a woman of 88. All my life I have had to be there for her, my alcoholic father and my controlling step father. I have never been able to have a life of my own. Ever! Now this, I suffer from depression and anxiety disorder which doubles the load. I just feel so darned guilty that I get frustrated with Mom. Geez, did I get all of this out?I need more support. Are there local groups in my town? DC Thank you for letting me vent.