Mom died last week. I cannot get out of bed, shower or answer phone.

2012

If anyone needs a current thread/discussion to go to, I recommend:
"Life after the loss of a loved one".

Gardenartist

You're probably right. Desperation may have logged off after her mom passed.

desperation I am very sorry Your dear Mother passed away recently. So Many of Us Caregivers here on this wonderful A/A Site have felt that Heartbreak which You are experiencing right now. A Mother is the Heartbeat of Home, and the Pulse of Her Children's Lives. It is Mother Who keeps the Family together. I can feel Your pain, because only six months ago I Lost My Mother, Who I know is in Heaven with Your own Mother, where there is no more pain, or sorrow. What You are feeling now, We felt that too but believe Me it will become easier. Obviously You adored Your Mom and You were very cloce, so give Yourself time all the time You need. I hid from the World for months after Mammy had passed away. I drove to another Town to do My shopping, I went to Mass in a Chapel far from Home...I simply avoided every One Who knew Me, because I knew as soon They would mention Mam I'd cry My Heart out, but after months had passed I began to thank Our Lady for the Long and wonderful Life Mother enjoyed and for the merciful painless end Mam was granted. I began to accept that it was Mam's Time. 87 years is a great span of Life. None of Us is immortal, as We will All die eventually, hence We must enjoy every day of Our Lives, and Live Life to the full.
Desperation give it time, there is no time Limit on grief, but I Promice You the sun will shine again, and You will feel great joy come back into Your Life, because while You can't see Your Mom, She will be with You every second for the rest of Your Life, as Those Who We Love Live in Our Heart, and Our Mind Forever. I found Prayer a great comfort to Me, also I Joined the Newly formed voluntry VISIT THE ELDERLY in Our Town which is wonderful since I have always adored Our Elder Generation. So Many are lonely and Live alone, and Love the Company and conversation. These wonderful People are steeped in history, and have wonderful knowledge if We take the time to visit Our Elders and Listen to Their great story of Life it is so fulfilling and rewarding.
I also joined the Legion of Mary and I'm feeling more like My old Self, as I'm after winning back My zest for Life again.

Zythrr, my comment wasn't that Desperation couldn't benefit from support. It was that Desperation perhaps isn't even around to check the thread she created and may in high likelihood not even read any responses to her 2012 post.

GardenArtist

True, though Desperation could still be missing his/her mom. Heck I think often about my dear uncle, and it will soon be 8 years.

I think a good antidepressant might help get over the hump!

Folks, Desperation hasn't posted since Dec., 2012.

Dear Desperation, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. I am so sorry to hear of your pain and sorrow. I know its hard during such a difficult time to want to do anything but cry. It will take time to adjust to a new normal. Please try to take care of yourself the best you can. Thinking of you. With hugs.

Desperation, I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Its understandable to be depressed and in a funk. There is not a set criteria on how long it should take for you to come out of your mourning depression. One thing which may help is to imagine that you were passed on and your mother was doing what you are doing, sad, depressed, stuck. How would you feel if she was mourning you and haveing a hard time. What would you say to her? Well I think she would say same to you. She would not want to break your heart or see you with a broken heart.

I think it also helps to understand that she is always with you in spirit through God. Also think of her in a beautiful place. no more pain nomore sorrow.. With her own mother and father and other loved ones.

It makes me smile sometimes when I think of the people my beloved deceased will meet there in heaven. Always one person who will ease my heart and concern is up there waiting.

We get blessed, those memories are with us forever. They are with us in memories and what they have instilled in us just the itself is always with you.

So cheer up my sister. your mother would want you happy and enjoying what is left of your life cherished and loved and happy. you have a husband there pushing you, loveing you. Cherish these moments and blessings while they are here.

The older the get the more pain we experience the more people we see move on. Try and spend what's left loving and making more beautiful memories. That is the way I have felt since my father passed on. To give love and make sure my loved ones know i love them. The memories and what he instilled in me, i passed to my son and i see him over and over in my heart, in my son, in how he does his family, in other kind hearted loving people.

She is right there, will always be...

my mom passed away after a short illness from septic shock. she had not been able to speak due to a stroke for almost 19 years. with her passing, went the hopes and dreams she might one day speak to me again. last I saw her I had the urge to hold her and tell her I love her. she rubbed my forearm and cried. that was her way of telling me she loved me. I have that, but I am very depressed, always feeling could I have done more? I know your post is old and hopefully you have more peace. my mom just passed away in May and my emotions are all over the place.