Can anyone advise on how to return to a state of well-being after spending time with your loved ones with dementia and having family strife?
I could end my post with that (and you can stop reading to pass the details), but I feel the need to vent hoping it releases this anxiety. My dear mom's dementia leaves her confused, anxious and never peaceful or settled. Dad is exhausted. He and mom argue over small stuff. My older sister is mean-spirited. I don't think she treats our parents respectfully. We've had many arguments over their care and her actions. Sister still acts like a 12-year-old and drags our parents into our disagreements, usually painting me as the bad guy. I never say a word since I know mom and dad don't need the drama, and I choose peace.
However her antics seem to work in creating tension between me and our parents. I've asked her to stop dragging our elderly parents into our disagreements, but she flatly refused. Dad wouldn't talk to me when I called just to say "hi" last night. This breaks my heart.
Prior to my visit with my parents a few days ago, I felt happy and centered. When I came home, I was depressed, lack of energy, had a stomach ache. I think dad's refusal to speak to me last night was due to my sister complaining to him about our last argument since the timing aligns.
This makes me want to never see any of them again, save myself while I still can and run for the hills. Thanks.