Why does it bother me when my mom frequently calls me by my sister's name? I know I'm probably overreacting. I'm my mom's caregiver. Oldest of 2 and the other one has fallen off the face of the earth. I suppose it could be buried resentment. My earliest memories are always seeing mom and sister together and it didn't change into adulthood. I was generally sent off with dad or others. Maybe it's a personality thing. It's just so time consuming at times to console myself that it's 'nothing'. Just 2 syllables uttered by mom and I instantly get cranky. Anyone have a SHORT mantra I can recite to myself?