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Im sorry but feel like I really need to say something I guess maybe I shouldnt be on here anymore starting to feel certain ways but I want all to know I really appreciate all feedback and to those of you that have been kind to me you will never know how much i appreciate that,I need and have to say to Pamstegman yes yes yes I know how burned out I am as you put it beyond but say to you isnt there any other way you can say things that would be somewhat kind not that I want pity or anyone to feel sorry for me thats not it but even after you comment its never followed by something nice ,my situtation goes even further then caregiving so honestly you do not or could even imagine why that little remark would bother me so much. I have seen things before by you that I would think to myself not so nice and it is not the fact that you are saying burned out. Thats all have to say to you ,but for others who are reading this I was close and made my life my mother and grandmother and I feel like Im going thru grieving in my own way my mom is last to go I ahve lost all my family members and I know mom being sick isnt her fault but I do not know if this feeling is normal or not but I think I scream cuz I have so much anger because I feel like she should not be sick or this way and me I have protected her so long I know I cannot do nothing to stop whats happening and also I do n ot feel proud or nothing of myself for taking care of her. So all this being said I wanted some of you to understand me but noe for tythe first time on here I feel totally stupid AND AGAIN PAM are you ever kind . to ones who were kind to me thank you so much sandy22

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I bet if the field had been knee-deep in snow the Bills would have won, no contest.
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Oh, Jessie got it right. I'm from Buffalo. None of us has been right in the head since the Bills lost the Super Bowl for the fifth time.
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We are all burnt.We are all sensitive to the comments of others whether we admit it or not and we all deal with our daily stress in different ways.So let's all remember that and not get testy toward one another.We are all we have obviously or we wouldn't be here in a virtual world without the mask of "superhuman" the real world expects to see.
Let's forget it now.Move on.
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"Apocalyptic Goat"... oh my... :-)

I have absolutely nothing to offer here. I guess I'm just so burnt out myself that this gossipy and silly thread is more my speed in my current sarcastic and bitter frame of mind than some others right now... And no offense, sandy22, its not silly when you are in real pain and hurting, but there are lots of places on this site to get support and you chose to post This Thing...

Pamstegman, I think you give awesome input and advice. And your jokes have made me snort with laughter more than once. That is a huge gift for me, so thanks.
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This is a strange thread indeed. Someone did a 2-3 threads complaining about Pam a couple of months ago, didn't they? Is this the same person? I checked the thread referred to and didn't see anything wrong with what Pam did. She is from Buffalo. That means she can say the same thing as I do in a lot less words. It bothers me that someone should start a thread with an attack toward someone who had done nothing wrong. And it really bugs me that the Apocalyptic Goat says someone she's never met is an alcoholic. Really, I think the goat keeps her beard ducked in the suds. Baaaaaa.
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sandy22, continue feeling the way you do and grieve the way you need to do. We all have been in similar situations, but none of us has walked in the shoes of each individual here on this site. Feeling burned out does not take away the kindness and compassion you have within you and it does not have to make you feel stupid. You face reality, that takes intelligence. I hope you stay on this site, your input helps more than you think.
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OK but just one. I did go to an AA meeting to see my BIL get his ten year medal. I told the speaker " I'm not an alcoholic, but I have driven a few men to drink". LOL.
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ShakingDustOff - I'm going to say this once and only once:
What you just did was absolutely wrong and unacceptable - period. I don't care what you say to justify it, that was just flat out wrong.

I've said this before, and I'll say it again: This is the internet, people. You will not like what everyone here says, nor will everyone here like what you say. We are a huge melting pot of personalities, many of us dealing with a LOT of stress on a daily basis. We come here to vent, scream, cry, talk, laugh and get advice. With a large group of disparate personalities comes an almost certainty that there will be conflict. Some people don't sugarcoat things - they say it like it is. If you don't like someone's comments, you may certainly disagree with them, and you're welcome to POLITELY say so - but I don't see any reason to make a thread for the sole purpose of bashing them.

Sandy, I hope you are able to find some peace. All of us are fighting a hard battle here - there is no need to fight amongst ourselves. We have enough to deal with on a daily basis without this.
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sorry, hit submit....but to continue.... I need the Pam's of this site, the ones that do not dress it up, just tell it like it is..... many do not read me either.... that's the choice we have here....And sometimes we do not cater to, or enable things that our own life experiences have taught us needs to be addressed directly....

I am a recovering alcoholic/addict with 30 years clean..... reading about someone drinking or suggesting drinking does not affect me one way or the other.... if they feel they have a problem, then we try to be supportive and encourage them to get help.... if not, then it's just 'conversation'.......good grief... we have such serious issues in our lives and need each other.... and hopefully we can be present for others..... but my experience here for many years, has taught me that these kinds of conversations are needed also..... to clear the air, to let some of us make a stand for others we like and believe in.... but it is NEVER ok to attack someone publicly....Sandy, hope you come back and find the help you need.... there are many 'voices' here.... and Pam is one of many...

Pam, if I could drink, you would be one of the few I would have a drink WITH....!!!!
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I sent this to Pam in a hug, but I decided to post it publicly as well. If you too appreciate this wonderful woman's advise, then "like it" to show her some support. Thanks, Boni

You amaze me. What a great response. I SO wish we were on my back porch with Bob and a few others, having a nice cold beer! LOL. You are not here for hand holding and emotional support, like some of us. You have SO much more to offer! You have every right to save your emotions for where they are truly needed, at home. God Bless you for all you do for the people here that need straight answers! You are very appreciated.
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