How do I keep them from being so cruel? My moms tone of voice when speaking to me is so hateful and then she denies it when I confront her behavior. Then Phil ignores me or says mean comments referring to me as useless and unwanted. I guess he's right. I do everything for them out of love and I'm stuck there, can't leave because I have no where to go. I've taken up whiskey to calm myself and escape. I don't drink daily but it's up to twice a week now.