My grandmother, who I mention a lot, is being a brat. I thought I'd never say that (I associate the word brat with someone much younger). She had one knee replaced and now having the other one replaced. In October. For those who are familiar with weather in Northeastern Ohio, the weather can be very fickle. My mother's friend, who is a nurse was in an accident a month ago can't help (my parents and I understand and let her know that it was completely understandable and she should focus on getting better herself). My mom's friend is such a sweetheart that has a huge heart. My grandmother knows that my mom's friend can't help and now expects someone (me) to move in after she gets out of rehab or move in with us for extra help. I told her to p*** off, I'm not moving in with her. When she asked why, I did tell her that no is a complete answer and she doesn't have the right to my reasons. Then a toddler's meltdown occured. She told my mom and I to get out of her house. We left and when we arrived home, she left 4 messages stating that she expected I either moved in or she moved in with us. We haven't called her back but she's left more messages stating that we were awful people and she expected us to shape up and do what we were "told". I'm fed up and angry that she is doing this. Heaven forbid she makes other arrangments and pays for anything.
WALK out when she becomes antagonistic --- you have to train her like you do to children. Walk out enough times, don't return the abusive phone calls etc and her tune may change.
Did she go to rehab after her last knee replacement?
I think I might have been a little gentler in my response and maybe suggested that other arrangements could be made and that someone could help her make them.