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My mom is in the mid stages of dementia and has a bad hip. I have been very worried about her living alone for some time. A couple of weeks ago she had to have emergency surgery for a hernia and obstructed bowel and is now in a nursing home recovering. What I thought at first was bad turned into a blessing in disguise. Now her Doctor can order home health care to continue to help her improve and maintain her strength and Medicare will cover it! So now when she does go home someone will be in the home with her a few times a week and she will not be all alone all week waiting for me to come on Saturdays. YAY!!!

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Sorry been super busy! I have an appt. With an attorney today to start guardianship proceedings. Mom is still in the care center. PT did not do much because of her bad hip. Hoping to move her to an assisted living when her incision heals from her hernia surgery but not sure if it will be possible.
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I wonder if cothrangirl could please post a followup so we can know how this all turned out?
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It is so frustrating to have responsibility without any authority. I can understand where you are coming from, even of it doesn't become possible. Getting guardianship would definately help with your situation. Wishing you the best in what happens next.
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cothrangirl, your Mom only had surgery a couple of weeks ago and she is a rehab nursing home.

There is no way of knowing if your Mom will still be able to take care of her home, herself, and pay her bills. Not to scare you, but to inform you, surgery on someone with dementia can cause the dementia to accelerate. So be prepared.
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I'd forgotten your previous posts about your sister. Best of luck with this messy situation.
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Ok I should have reworded this to "if" she goes home. Nothing is set in stone yet. I have no legal recourse since I have no POA. I have a sister that lives hours away that argues and hang me legally if possible, no matter what anyone thinks is best. My mom has no short term memory outside of routine. At home she eats, she tidies up her house, cleans herself up, gets herself dressed and pays her bills, since she does all of that even Adult protective services will not help. I was just thrilled that if she does go home, if I cannot prevent it, then at least there would be someone in the home a few times a week, even if only for half an hour, to see her. With all the brick walls I have been hitting this is huge to me.
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Just something to think about: guardianship may give you the legal wherewithal to say where she lives, but it's not going to make her cooperative. Having the foljs, including the doctor at rehab saying "no, it's not really safe for you to be at home"?...priceless. It's not you saying no. Take advantage of this opportunity.
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You need to get your "Long Game" going here. Don't bring her home. Given her medical and memory needs this is the time to find a care facility for her. The whole "Yay! Medicare is gonna pay for on home care!" Is very short term. The dementia elevator only goes down. Don't get caught in the revolving door of hospital, rehab, home, 911 call, hospital etc. Find a place for her.
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You need to talk to the rehab social worker /discharge planner. You tell her that mom lives alone and that the OT must come out to assess the home for safety. When they ask "won't you be moving in to care for her?", the answer is no, no further explanation needed. If they press you you talk about your own poor health and physical limitations). They will figure out quickly that they can't let mom go home alone. If she says "but my daughter will be there" you make sure that they know in no uncertain terms that you will NOT,
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What people, cothrangirl? The physical therapy people are only there for physical therapy, half hour to hour maybe twice a week.... they aren't going to cook for her, clean her apartment, or help bathe her. Your Mom is going to need more help than 2 hours a week.
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