Why I am a better caregiver than you?

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HAH-got your attention didn't I? First of all HOW DARE YOU??!! How dare you let a , as far you know, crazy faceless nameless poster on a forum EVER influence how you feel about yourself!!! Do not let any silly asinine statement on here EVER take away from who you know you are!!!!! You are all awesome! Now--why I am a better caregiver than you---

Because I am only part time. Yup. This last week(well actually the week before --it has taken me this long to recoup from my week) I had my Mom and I learned a very important thing--- I am a pretty good caregiver to her BUT mostly because I knew it was for a short time. Yes, I got her laughing and eating and I bathed her with much care and I smiled all week. And the entire time I was saying inside. 'this is only temporary, this is only temporary, this is only temporary....'

Now I am what I truly think of as a caregiver , to my girl but I am her Mom and so it is different. But you guys, YOU GUYS!!! You spouses and you children who are taking full time care of your loved ones -whether in your home or in an AL or NH ?!?!! Well, let me tell you , I would not be so smiley and not nearly so relaxed and not nearly as patient if I knew it was not temporary. I would not be nearly as "good" a caregiver if it was a permanent position. And I know this and I want to say how amazed and in awe I am of you all who do this full time.

And remember this--when your siblings or cousins or who-not come down and watch Mom or Dad for a day or even a week and say "why it was no problem! I don't know why you make it seem so hard" tell them to bite you! Because they were saying '. This is only temporary , this is only temporary , this is only temporary ....' in their heads whether they want to admit it or not.


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Mishka

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Even those of us who have been doing this for years keep saying it is only temporary, we are just saying it with less zeal than we use to.
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ihanaa, you need to get out here more. We have nothing but fun and distraction from the whacko world of caregiving! Wheeee!!
Hilarity Rules! It will keep you sane. When we laugh at absurdity, it gives a fresh perspective. You just have to be careful not to get hysterical, or you're back to whacko again! Heehee. Have fun:) xo
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Mishkam your post did not intimidate me at all, It just made me wonder/curious to see what it was about. But this is the first time that I've seen everyone whooping it up on here and enjoying them selves. Thanks everyone for making me smile this morning, My 24/7 life really needed that !!!
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Thank you thank you thank you. Someone that really understands. I am like someone else above, I took almost total care of my mom for years and then at the end my sister comes and then leaves me with Dad now too.... 'he's just fine'. I even had the 'pleasure' of listening to suggestions from relatives who had not called or seen my mom but maybe once or twice a year. I hope the original poster calls the friend or relative she was taking the place of for two weeks and says Thank you, I had no idea how difficult care giving was.
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OMG - Spot on Mishka! I only wish my siblings took the time to follow a site like this one to try to understand what I do or feel. Oh well, at least I am sure of myself.
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Mishka I just had to see what you had up your sleeve, as I feel there is so much work behind caring for someone. I thought maybe you discovered a new technique to make the job a little simpler. But one thing for sure you did attract attention and I'm sure that you put a big smile on a lot of care givers faces and in their hearts. Thank you so much and a big hug to you. Ps with that sense of humar you are a great care giver. Take care
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Oh yes, toasted walnuts any berries sounds yummy. I know what I'm having when I get home tonight.
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Oops-hi trycope51! Glad you lgot a laugh!!! :0)))
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Enjoyed your posts guys! Captain, I didn't know you were a cook! Pretty neato! And Book,-hi! I know you are full up with caregiving!! And , actually, Mom might come back at the end of July.-- for a few days ;)
Ladde-sorry if my title startled you -(hee hee- no really, sorry -I was in an ornary mood).
Hi Christina! How are you???:0)
Laura, Wilma, Allison--you guys totally got what I was aiming for-yay.
Yaya-you always make me laugh-your visual of your MIL(MIL right ?) made ME get a visual !! :^0

All in all Mom and I had a good week. Sophie got very mad at her Papa when he came to take Nana back home--it really made my Mom feel good, I think, as she sometimes expresses that she feels like she has nothing to offer. She still drives me nuts with her bell ringing and her Requip but , again, "it was only temporary"


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Hi all! Wow-you guys are so cool! Sorry I haven't even seen your posts! I had a few beers Friday, posted on the Happy hour thread and then clonked out! Heehee! Just now getting back on.

So glad most of you got my little thread. I really do think you full time caregivers are awe inspiring. Not that part timers don't do a lot either, just, well, it is different.

I gotta go back and read all your posts! BBL :0)
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