Mom stopped eating about 3 days ago and only drinks enough water to wash down pills. Her body fat is already gone so her body is eating muscle now. I'm not going to force food and water on her. I've read enough to know that her systems are dying and dehydration followed by malnutrition are the two most humane ways to let go and die. She asked me today if there was a way I could hasten the process. No I can't but I'm not trying to prolong it either. She's not in much pain cause she takes an Oxycodone every 4 hrs. The pain is emotional in nature. I've told her to stop worrying about us halfassed kids and do what feels right for herself. She asks straight questions, I give her straight answers as in "I think you only have a few days left." She has always considered me the no - spin guy. I believe kidney cancer is going to get her even before the unstable angina, even before the dementia and COPD. Sister is helping out right now but the parrot must not trust sis much. Every time mom so much as groans the parrot screams for " bob. " Ancient technology at its best. lol..