My father-in-law is due to be released from the hospital soon ( lung infection).
He has severe copd/emphysema. While there, his doctor expressed concern as he absolutely refused to use the bathroom, altough it was only 4 feet away from the bed. The doctor felt that he should be able to use the bathroom on his own, just some help to walk to the door. My fil insisted on a bedside commode.
Now he is insisting on one in the livingroom. He has been sleeping in the livingroom for five years, although he has a perfectly good bedroom and master bath. There is no privacy between the kitchen and livingroom, huge front window, where the blinds are always opened.
I am horrified at the idea of having a toliet in the livingroom. Mind you, I would understand if he was not truly able, but everyone feels he is( nurses, doctors )
The doctor has suggested some physical therapy at home, to build up his strength and mobility. I know, without a doubt, he will not perform the exercises. I know the bedside commode will become permanent, and not a temporary thing.
My husband was pretty tough with him about this. We offered to help him, use of a walker, cane, etc., He will not even try to do these things.
The only solution I have come up with is to cover both areas of livingroom off, with sheets and to use our backdoor as a front entrance. There is no way I could even think about cooking, while a commode is less than five feet away from stove ( kitchen and livingroom only seperated by a narrow wall).
I think if I do this, turn the livingroom into a TRUE bedroom, he will be more inclined to use his bathroom. He is a very social person, and I think if my husband and I limit contact with him for a few days, he will at least try. I know this sounds mean, but I am truly floored by the idea of a commode in our livingroom. It seems like a nightmare.
The PT guy and the doctor both insist that he needs to get up and walk around. I don't feel that I'm doing Dad any favors by letting him sit in his recliner all day, not even getting up to pee!
I will say that a good friend of mine owns a very nice house in an expensive part of town and there is a half-bath right there, not 5 feet away from the kitchen proper. Same at my ex-inlaws. But there is a difference in a true bathroom and a portable, so are you and your husband handy enough to do some more structured temporary walls (more than just sheets hung up as dividers)? Maybe if you box off the area, so to speak, it will be less appealing to him to stay there.
Just throwing out some ideas here.