They're talking about discharging my dad from his SNF next week. He'll be around the 30 day mark. So nurses keep saying "he's doing really good" and the PT keeps talking up progress. I believe the nurses (save for one amazing one) are generally basing that on his refusal to take his pain meds. Maybe I'm a skeptic. The PT contacted my mom and I to come doing some walking with my dad yesterday and "talk about some things."
These "things" turned out to be a maybe discharge date.
The walk went very badly. He's using a walker, but I don't think he's using it safely because he's hunched over it, he's tripping on the legs and on his own feet, and it was like he was chasing it. The PT valiantly, idiotically tried to talk up how "good" it went and how he was "stiff" but some times are better. I should say that the PT recommended I or my mother would almost always need to grab the waistband of his pants to help him stand, stand sideways beside him with one arm looped through his, and walk that way with him.
This is how they want to send him home, because he could "walk" from his room to a common space maybe fifty feet away.
Then when we expressed that we had concerns, he promised to wow us with stairs today. (Spoiler alert... more concerns came from that.)
Before the PT left yesterday, he tried to sell us on "he's pretty good on 3 stairs... I know you said there are 5 to the bathroom but... he could use a urinal or commode 'for awhile'" and that sort of thing. My mom asked how it's 'for awhile' could happen, could improve, when he'd basically just made my dad homebound to the first floor of the house.
He suddenly had somewhere else to be.
The stairs went badly today, the PT did not have my dad walk for us today. The PT did reluctantly admit that yesterday went badly, but did try to be rosy on everything. Except, not so rosy because he also said part of the reason we should be okay with discharge is "he'll still need help at Christmas" and "if he's worse in January, ask for in-home PT."
He suddenly had somewhere to be when my mom asked how he knew my dad wouldn't improve more, need less help at Christmas if he did more work there.
But, long story short, in the time I have been telling my story here, I have learned so much. I have learned to be guarded when I answer questions from a PT about what I can and will do. I have learned to spot someone trying to shoo me out the door and I have learned to stand my ground. I have learned about 'improvement' therapy versus 'maintenance' therapy and that we can appeal three times. I have learned about Jimmo and about ombudsmen and that plateaus are something from the past a reason to send someone away.
So while I am so sorry for the things you all have gone through, I hope you know that the things you have shared are so important. I will pay it forward however I can. Thank you.