I feel really bad that I wanted to be free of taking care of this 81 yr old living with me that I let her son take her because he needed her credit and income to get apt.. when he came to move her he was horrible to her, yelling at her and wouldn't take all her stuff, the program I worked so hard to get her in for home care he refuses to let in apt. The girl who was coming 3 days a week text me and said he is very mean. Won't let her in so she just takes her on errands 1 day a week, should I report him?stay out of it? I do not want the responsibility of caring for her again and she needs gauranteer or cosigner for A.L. don't want her in boarding home or places that I've heard are bad. Do I just stop worrying and be happy I have my home and life back or do something, none of her kids care, they wouldn't help with her here and they don't talk to each other.. the woman stoled from me, I caught her 3 times, I cant have her here, I'm back n forth between not my business anymore and shame on me I should call someone but who? You all helped me so much before and I followed your advice and moved her out, which would be great if I knew she was being cared for and not knowing hes yelling at her, calling her names .. she was crying the day he took her because he was yelling at her the whole time calling her liar and things, what do i do?? Is this because she isn't a good person and what comes around goes around because she really did bad things why I was waiting on her hand n foot, let her drug attic sons in my home when I was gone and stole jewelry, medication etc.. and they still bring her $$ for my things .. to long a story but caught her because she gave things to people and I seen it, asked and was told it was from her..and I set her up.. she lies has no remorse and never admits anything.. I was a fool, but does she deserve to be abused?? I'm so torn.. any advice!!??
If this was your thread, you were concerned at that time and obviously still are concerned for this woman's welfare and are torn between whether to step back or become involved only in ensuring that she's cared for. At this point, you're no longer in the picture, but still are concerned. so I would contact APS and ask them to step in for an evaluation and assessment.
That way you've satisfied your concern in the most appropriate way possible, but you're also excusing yourself from direct responsibility. If you don't contact APS, you may still harbor concerns that you haven't done all you can to alert authorities to an abusive situation.
It's very kind for you to be concerned, and unfortunate that this woman abused your compassion. Perhaps there's more involved in her family situation and dynamics than you're aware of and that's why her son mistreats her, although that's not any excuse at all.
Be sure though that neither the woman, her son or other family members play on your sympathy and try to drag you back into the family feuds.