Where to start.... well my mum has 3 types of dementia which makes life complex... its like living with multiple personalities. The main problem has been her memory what day is it what time is it what year is it what day is it what time is it ...you get the picture. So I sorted that with a big clock and a huge writing pad that has today is Friday The date is 13th March the year is 2015. So then she fixated on Sundays and was it time to go to church yet....no it isnt Sunday about 3 or 4 times an hour and this can go on all day. Eventually I got her professionally assessed hence me knowing she has 3 dementias and the doctor gave her some medicine to help her memory. Wonderful I thought...wonderful I hear you say ....dear god no its worse than ever because a side effect is that she doesn't sleep through the night and when I say doesn't sleep she manages to get into my room and wake me up TO TALK!!!
Now during the day it takes her forever to struggle over to the commode - at night she can manage to walk through the house easily. Last night I was so tired I was dead to the world - she says she rang the bell but in all honesty I didnt hear her, that's how tired I was. I woke to something very painful on my face - she had brought the bell (its one like you get on a reception) through in the bag on her walking aid and thrown it at my face. For someone who used to be crap at any ball game she seems to have developed a perfect shot.
I still dont know how I didnt pick it up and throw it back I was so so angry. I took a deep breath (well about 10) and said very calmly - if you think that throwing things at me is a good way to wake me then I have to say it isnt a good idea Mum now let me help you back to bed.....oh no she wants me to take her out into the garden...WTF? About an hour leater I got her back to bed and then not 30 minutes later she is back in again wanting to talk. Dilemma do I stop the tablets and have the memory loss or have the memory and become insane?
My mom was like this until we got her into a facility and on the right regimen of meds. It was no fun for her, being frightened and anxious all the time.