We came up a year ago to help my Dad live independently when my Mother passed away. We had no idea he was so lazy. We expected to be able to be able to do things with him, take him places and basically enjoy his company. He previously seemed like a great guy. My Mother did everything for him. He will now only shower himself and occasionally do a load of laundry. He has memory problems but part of that is because he watches TV all day. He will not participate in any of the old clubs he belonged to, will not exercise and does not want to. He has informed us of this. He is not depressed. He is a jerk. He emails/calls his friends but only talks about himself so they have stopped responding. My Mom did all the entertaining and kept up with their friends. He is fine with the way things are and lets us know about it often. We live in two bedrooms in the back of the home and he has the rest of it to himself. He is very self centered and most of the time only talks about himself. When we take him out to eat he is embarrassing because when a waiter asks us what we want he buts in and tells them he wants a drink and keeps reminding them of what he wants. We sold all of our furniture and quit our high paying jobs to take care of him, mistake!!!!!!!!!!! If we had insisted that he move down where we were it would have been better for us. At least we would have an equal say in things and could have kept close to our friends. Be careful if you move in with an aging parent. It can be devastating for you.