I put my mother in an ALF in Feb. this year and she hasn't adjusted yet. She wants to move back with us and I can't take her back. She's too much to handle for me. She is 91 with dementia and in very much pain from hip surgery 3 yrs ago. I'm sure it's her dementia talking that they are mean to her, won't give her medicine for pain, don't talk to her. I found another lady wearing her blouse and now she's missing two pairs of pants. I told them I will wash her clothes and bedding. Now I have a big note on the door. She said the lady that showers her pulls her hair, tells her what to do. I'm at my wits end. I see her 3 times a weeks, I'm thinking of cutting back. Just venting. My brother's don't care. Bless you all.