The hard part is over.
I'm matching you with one of our specialists who will be calling you in the next few minutes.
I know that I used to be confused as to why my LO insisted on wearing depends instead of using bedside toilet. The reason became clear when her dementia progressed. I didn't realize then that she did not have the mental ability to do certain things.
Patience and love.... Lots of both.....
I think she is using you at this point and you can put a stop to it. It is your home and your first priority is your husband.