I am not sure where this question belongs and I searched the forum, but could not find anything related. My husband and I have been on our local government "wait list" for the vaccine since they created it. We were not in the high priority groups, so have been waiting our turn and staying safe. Our age group just became eligible this week.
Much to my total amazement, I saw a notice for me to schedule my vaccine a few days ago. I was overwhelmed with utter joy and shock that I cannot even describe. I excitedly ran over to my husband assuming he would also have a similar notice, but we soon realized he had not yet been selected to make his appointment. The air went out of the room. Suddenly it felt like there was a huge ocean between us. Has anyone experienced similar? How are you handling it?
After going through a year of this together, how do you just take that leap? It seems so random. I would have actually preferred to give my appointment to him, but that is not an option. Unless I missed it somewhere, I do not hear anyone talking about this aspect. I feel like I am abandoning him. Honestly, I felt so horrible about it, I spent the following days making it my mission to locate an appointment for him via another channel. I just could not do this without him.
My oncologist's office called me when my turn came--I wasn't even aware that I was going to be qualified--they knew and jumped the gun with calling pts and scheduling. I have my 2nd one next week. The relief was boundless.
I figured DH and I would be months apart, and now we're just a week apart. In a few more weeks we can go see grandkids!
I was actually happier for DH than for me. He was so high risk and so 'careless' it was a real serious stress to me.
I had no guilt but boy was sig-other jealous, like a whiny child who didn't get a cookie when others did :P Hey, I've been doing volunteer work there for about 30 years, I earned it !!
Couple weeks later sig-other finally got a note from the State/County to schedule and he took the first slot he could get. Whew, glad the whining stop.... wait?.... what? He had side effects from the shot that lasted about three days, but it felt like a life time.... [sigh]
Actually I think it is better that couples do not get shots at the same time. That way if there is a slight chance one gets side effects, the other spouse/sig-other can take care of that person.
Just bring him along to your appointment and say that there was an error in not scheduling him.
It is what it is. Get your shot, and I'm sure your husband's number will come up very soon as well.