Really not looking forward to xmas siblings all home and doing nothing I have ordered the precooked dinner as im doing nothing not even washing a cup. My bro and i usually end up cooking then sis just washes up after. the house will be a mess and left to me trust me if there was a way for me to run away for xmas I would!
The ads on tv are making me feel sick "happy families" also this is probably mums last who knows?
Sorry to be so depressing but I am I used to love xmas coming home seeing my friends etc.. now the friends have disappeared and I have very little tolerance left for family.
I pray that money will appear by magic and that I could just go and stay in a hotel until theyve gone back.
How do others cope with siblings at xmas all the peace and love when mine dont give a toss that im not well and mums future care will have to be discussed.
I know there will one day be a light at the end of this tunnel but right now I cant bear the thoughts of xmas and siblings coming. I do intend to be out as much as possible still until they are exposed to mum 24/7 they cant see what im dealing with or care.
I know this must affect alot of us here how do you pretend to get on when all you want to do is tear thier heads off?? (so to speak!)
Most days this feels fine to me but there are those days when I remember the joy of Christmas cookie making, eating oyster stew on Christmas Eve before you can open presents and I guess my family itself. Then a family member has another unkind post for me on facebook and I think I am ok after all.
Dont worry ive told them I have chest pains and cant do anything im having tests next week for my heart an angiogram? cant wait!
I will do nothing its the tension of them not doing their bit and me getting annoyed and stressed.
As if xmas is not bad enough my sister from hell is coming over again next week for the weekend so ive made plans not to be here and have written a list of mums meds and the food she has to eat after that I dont care IM DONE my siblings are going to see a different side to me this xmas the chest pains or not just the stress of my mums illness but mainly my siblings taking the piss but next year I am taking my life back i dont want to get seriously ill just because my siblings are a selfish lot you cannot look after someone 24/7 alone with no help or support its not possible someone will suffer either me or mum.
Yep this xmas its up at lunchtime and stay out as long as is needed why does keeping the house clean and cooking for mum have to be world war 3 every year stuff this it aint no way to live.
My xmas wish is I have the money i need to move away from this and grab my life back again!
Yes, Christmas alone, just me an Steveie babie. The Great Escape sounds heavenly too.
yay e - cards. i tried to find one to send to a friend last christmas and after looking at 5000 cards i just kept going back to the one im fixin to fly as an avatar. its rather vulgar so i hope the print isnt legible ( except to those people curious enough to click and enlarge it somehow ) .
When my mum dosnt wear her teeth I tell her she looks like gran you wanna see her move to get her teeth in!!!!!!!! (of course she was my mums MIL)
Gosh JB spending time with a religious cult been there also at my sisters house never again her so called christian friends were there brought nothing ate all around "shoved Jesus in our faces" then one actually took the biggest room which had ensuite and really should have been for mum but my sister insisted that he had gotten used to the room and had to stay there?????? religious my ass! Oh the joys of xmas!
Yes its hard when people know nothing about your messed up family and say to me "wont it be great when they are all home so you can have a break" Ive learnt to smile and say yes "GREAT" i should get an Oscar by now!!
" ALL I WANT FOR XMAS IS A BREAK" sniff sniff! x
I've always loved spending time with my kids and husband st Christmas but things sure have changed since Mom's dementia has progressed.