Anybody dreading Xmas?

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Really not looking forward to xmas siblings all home and doing nothing I have ordered the precooked dinner as im doing nothing not even washing a cup. My bro and i usually end up cooking then sis just washes up after. the house will be a mess and left to me trust me if there was a way for me to run away for xmas I would!
The ads on tv are making me feel sick "happy families" also this is probably mums last who knows?
Sorry to be so depressing but I am I used to love xmas coming home seeing my friends etc.. now the friends have disappeared and I have very little tolerance left for family.
I pray that money will appear by magic and that I could just go and stay in a hotel until theyve gone back.

How do others cope with siblings at xmas all the peace and love when mine dont give a toss that im not well and mums future care will have to be discussed.

I know there will one day be a light at the end of this tunnel but right now I cant bear the thoughts of xmas and siblings coming. I do intend to be out as much as possible still until they are exposed to mum 24/7 they cant see what im dealing with or care.

I know this must affect alot of us here how do you pretend to get on when all you want to do is tear thier heads off?? (so to speak!)

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Okay, I'm going to have a little self-compassion party. I know the true meaning of Christmas, of course. I have a very devout family, most who don't believe in the material side of Christmas. So I decorate and cook. No one seems to care or notice or even want to be home at my mother's. And nobody gives me any presents anymore. I mean what is Christmas without lots of presents? Sheesh! Bah humbug, bunch of family Scrooges. See if I buy anyone anything this year. (Goes off to sulk)
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My worst Christmas ever....my husband has Lewy Body Dementia (I guess) and I can not have Christmas Eve at our house because it's too hard taking care of him. I don't feel like decorating, shopping, nothing.....just the depression that goes with caretakers in my situation. I would not wish this illness on anyone. I would rather have cancer, seriously....
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I even hate the word Fall.
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My favorite day of the year is December 26, I don't like Christmas and I absolutely hate Christmas music!!! My sister, who lives about a mile away from me always has Christmas dinner at her house and invites half the town and half the county to her house, but not me. You drive by her house and many cars are lined up and down the street and in driveway, but not me. I just look for the good, at least when I was a child, Christmas was good.
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My family split when my parents divorced we were all adults by that time but everyone took a side. I stuck with my father though not a man of great accomplishments he spent every day of my childhood working to provide for me or planning our next adventure. The money and rest of my siblings Mother got in the divorce. As Dads health has declined and he requires so much care there is no extra money at any time of the year. So no Christmas again this year I just opt out of everything the parties,decorating might as well be July in my house.
Most days this feels fine to me but there are those days when I remember the joy of Christmas cookie making, eating oyster stew on Christmas Eve before you can open presents and I guess my family itself. Then a family member has another unkind post for me on facebook and I think I am ok after all.
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captain, I can see Kaiser Wilhelm with a beard penciled in, but I can't read the words.
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Fried272 sounds dreamy but im afraid you misunderstand its my mums house even though i care for her here i cannot say who comes and goes for xmas gosh if it were MY place id be in heaven as they would all stay at a hotel nearby gosh what utter bliss! Also ive no money to just take off which would be great I have a couple of friends but they all go to family for xmas.
Dont worry ive told them I have chest pains and cant do anything im having tests next week for my heart an angiogram? cant wait!
I will do nothing its the tension of them not doing their bit and me getting annoyed and stressed.
As if xmas is not bad enough my sister from hell is coming over again next week for the weekend so ive made plans not to be here and have written a list of mums meds and the food she has to eat after that I dont care IM DONE my siblings are going to see a different side to me this xmas the chest pains or not just the stress of my mums illness but mainly my siblings taking the piss but next year I am taking my life back i dont want to get seriously ill just because my siblings are a selfish lot you cannot look after someone 24/7 alone with no help or support its not possible someone will suffer either me or mum.
Yep this xmas its up at lunchtime and stay out as long as is needed why does keeping the house clean and cooking for mum have to be world war 3 every year stuff this it aint no way to live.
My xmas wish is I have the money i need to move away from this and grab my life back again!
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kazza, This year DECIDE what you want to do first! (Do you want the siblings there?) (Do you want to clean up the mess the next day----even if it is precooked, it is still left for you to clean up I will bet 10 to one!) Tell the siblings this year Christmas will be different! Here is an IDEA....tell siblings you are not up for company at the house ...tell them that you and mum will meet at a restaurant for a family BRUNCH or LUNCH or Dinner (before CHRISTMAS) you choose when. (PS EVERYONE pays their own way!!!!) That is your celebration! Then for the actual day..SLEEP in! Buy the food you want before hand...warm it up use paper plates, get some movies and hang out in your jammies all day! Ask the SIBLINGS to take MUm for the day! Have a great day yourself or plan to have a friend over and have a wonderful day!
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Kazaa-
Yes, Christmas alone, just me an Steveie babie. The Great Escape sounds heavenly too.
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done changed it back to kaiser bill, ya snooze ya lose.
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