My step sister in law (who has not been involved with my mother's care) ever, has decided that my mother has a UTI instead of Alzheimer's. My step father thinks mom is doing well and is only concerned with his arthritis of the knees. He does nothing to pick up her meds, keeps her awake all night and has her change his clothes for him. She has lost from 135 lbs to 104 lbs and still uses her to help him. She has had cancer twice in her life and heart issues. Prior to her "symptoms", she had not been to see a Dr in 3-1/2 years although he goes to Drs all the time. When I asked him why he did not make sure he took her to her Drs he said "she's a big girl". We did not know she wasn't seeing her Drs because she told us she was. Since she moved within 4 hours of me I have been taking her to the Drs she needs to see. She was recently diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer's. Now my step sister in law wants her and my step father to go see her doctor because she is "fine". I don't agree. She still does not know that she moved from Orlando to Atlanta area, she still thinks she is going home, and she thinks the president is Bush and this is '02. My SSIL is a hairdresser and has talked to her "clients". She told me on the phone the other day that that she "knows everything there is to know about Alzheimer's". I told her well that's good because not all Drs know everything about it". She said she called that neurologist and WILL be going to mom's next appointment with me, my mother and my stepfather. She said that my stepfather doesn't think she has it either. My thing is that since she has not cared or done anything for mom, can I tell her I will take my stepfather and she can stay home that day? She wants to go on the premise that my stepdad needs help getting out of a chair. With the Drs and nurses there, can't they help him? I'm frustrated with her and her controlling ways.