My sister came over yesterday and stayed overnight in the camper with the monitor. My mom didn't get up once last night. They helped me immensely with the cleaning chores, and I was able to get things done I was ignoring. I got a good nights sleep and I feel much better. I had a talk with my mom and told her I have to do things she doesn't like to keep her safe. She told me she understands I have to assist her. My sister helped me get her up in the morning, mom yelled at her as well. My mom said I'm not hurting her, it's just that it irritates her. I think it's frustration about her not being able to do anything. She is used to being independent, and this is a big change. I'm glad I talked to her, also very grateful for my sister and BIL. I feel rejuvinated and realize I still have some gas left in the tank. This forum has also helped me immensely. Thank you all for your thoughts, seems like we're all in this together. Be grateful for the good days and realize there will be bad days as well.
My mother is on the first step of Hospice Services, which is Palliative Care.
A bath aide comes twice a week.
The Hospice nurse checks on Mom one or even more times per week, depending on Mom’s needs.
The added bonus is that these ladies act as another set of eyes, as well as at list 3 “visitors” for my mother.
Best wishes to you!
Your mother is probably embarrassed that you have to do everything for her and maybe this is why she's so mean to you and complains so much. A person often behaves differently with hired help.