I've been apart of this community for some time. And I've read many posts that has been comforting or helpful in some way. And yet I wonder does anyone else out there who is a caregiver get frustrated or just fed up with the clinical/textbook responses on how to deal with a sick/disabled loved one? Today my mom went into a full blown rage. And she started to accuse me of tampering with her catheters and hiding some of her personal things. All the while screaming and crying and claiming that I was physically harming her. So I begin a Google search on how to cope with an emotionally unstable parent. And the responses were for the most part the most unhelpful, ignorant, just plain stupid answers that cannot help anyone. This is real life. Day in and day out. And I almost lost it when one of the responses read "have a conversation with your elderly parent. And establish boundaries". Now how in the world can anyone have a conversation with someone who is seeing and hearing things that are not even real or there? I would have better luck talking to Clifford the big red dog. Don't these doctors and all these people who make more money than I'll ever see know or understand that being a caregiver is the most challenging job anyone can have? We were the essential workers before COVID. Before the world shifted. And we are still overlooked, overwhelmed, overworked and under appreciated. We have no benefits or retirement plans. We suffer from poor health ourselves. We are prone to high levels of stress, depression, anxiety and everything else that falls in between. And the best you can do is to suggest or advise me to have a conversation with my elderly parent who by the way is erratic and confused. We are nothing, but we carry everything.