The crying lasts 30-60 minutes and she is particularly confused and upset that she doesn't know where she is ( in her winter home in Florida) or in Canada. It breaks our hearts and we really do not know what to do or say. Any suggestions, help, advice would be so appreciated. Are meds an option.....she already takes 75 mg of effexor in the AM. Thanks
I agree also that her medications should be re-evaluated. Meds maybe causing the confusion or could help relieve the confusion. Need to see if a different mix could help.
My thoughts are with you and wish you and your family the best.
I have found music can be very soothing -- old church songs or music from their childhood. Even humming can help calm people down when they are having an anxious moment. Alzheimer's and Dementia do often cause paranoia and fear -- talk to your doctor about anti-anxiety medication and see if you can find one thing that "grounds" your mom -- something that keeps her feeling safe.
I have one client who has a soft red jacket that she wears, zipped up, day and night because for some reason it represents security to her. Perhaps she had a red jacket as a child, and it makes her feel safe. See if you can find something that gives your mom that same sense of well being.
Your mom's reality has shifted. It's hard enough for her to understand her surroundings when she totally awake, so it's understandable that coming out of a dream could be very frightening to her.
Some medications make dreams more intense and "real" even for people without AD. I'd get in touch with her doctor so he or she can tell you if her medication may be causing this, or is there is a medication that could help prevent it. There may be a medication change indicated. If not, at least you can see what the doctor suggests.
Meanwhile, sitting with her and comforting her the best you can is important. Don't feel like you're not helping if your comfort doesn't allow her to snap right out of her distress. She still needs this.
I hope the doctor can help.