He has refused all care and is abusive to me on the phone. I have waited YEARS for some help to come, but something finally happened. He ended up in the hospital and they told him he has COPD. He is supposed to quit smoking and quit drinking, but he never will.
He has a totally useless, crazy girlfriend who lives in another condo in his retirement village. I talked to her on the phone and made her promise to call me should anything else happen. They are not together very much because of negativity and drunkeness. This woman is a whack job but she's better than the nothing that I thought she has.
I know that this is a site for actual caregivers, but there are many of us out here whose parent refuses all care and refuses visits like my Dad. I just wanted to tell you that YOU WERE RIGHT.
I don't know how he ended up in the hosptial; he feels all that is totally private, but I hope all the caregivers here continue to support us "would-be-caregivers" by assuring us that SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN ONE DAY.