Mine is my godfather 91 years old...not incontinent, no diabetes or dementia, or anything fatal, but some mobility issues since knee surgery then a bout with mrsa and a history of high blood pressure. Healing is right as rain.
But...The things my godfather has become fine with are just foul. He’s just rude, dismissive but demanding, everything is an emergency and he’s dirty now. Lazy, insistent, and cares nothing about anyone. I have caregivers and STILL I CANNOT STAND this relationship. He's been sick and needed much more help before so I’ve already seen it get worse... and if he had an excuse or diagnosis at this point he would be unbearable but understandable!!! I despise our interactions and dread every moment. Literally anxiety attack beforehand, like fetal anxiety.
I know this, if I start losing my marbles and become ok sitting in my own urine, throwing things or anything that would make my child or family feel this way... I want out! Put me down. I know it sounds harsh but I don’t want my family to hate me. Has anyone else considered how you yourself are to be handled? I’m 46 and I’m positive I’d never ever want to subject anyone to this?? What a sad realization:-(