Assisted living in New England seems to want $12,000 to start and anywhere from $2500 - $3500 per month until assets are gone. My Dad lives 350 miles away alone. His house needs much repair and cleaning. The neighborhood has changed - it will be difficult at best to sell the place. Assets were spent down two years ago when my mom needed care. She has since passed. Reverse mortgages are too chancy. He shouldn't be alone. What do people do?