After putting it off for far too long, we went for a visit yesterday. LOVELY Place, lovely CNA's and lots of fun elderly gents for mom to play with. They care for approx 25 people so it's a small group setting. Heck, I wanted to start attending!
Get mom there, built her up for a fun visit...she was all happy n smiles but good grief when we walked through the door it was as if Satan personally invaded her body and not one of his other flunkies. She proceeded to tell the poor lady who was doing the intake visit, every nasty thing she could think of concerning me.. Oh my heavens she even threatened to get a knife and secretly take care of "us" or better yet, she'd just grab the steering wheel and kill us both this way that "bitch" (me) wouldn't get a damn cent from her. We finally got mom to at least look around the place and talk to a few people.... the elderly guys in there where so funny and FUN!... not to mention very flirty and I just know mom would have a BLAST talking to them!!....Several of the ladies where loads of fun also.... got to get her agreeable to attend a few days a week!!
I get she's scared, I get she's not in control of her outbursts and emotions... I get it's the disease but boy oh boy is it hard at times to believe it. She can mention "the boys" so lovingly and turn so venomous towards me.
The facility gave me a DVD on AD and care giving. The Senior Gems/Senior Helpers/ Teepa Snow. It's an awesome video and I love the way she breaks Alzheimers down using different Gems. Totally easy to understand and makes so much sense. It helped put yesterdays fiasco into perspective.
Tomorrow both brothers are coming by to help with the Day Care issue. Personally since she loves them so much I think it would be a great idea if THEY took her to the next visit. She would be more receptive of day care...especially if it came from them. Hmmm...