accused of abusing mother, and innocent, what to do

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i have been turned in to adult protective for abuse of my mother. adult protective has taken statements from my mother and others and i believe they think i am abusive. i am just crused. i gave up career and life to care for her. do i need attorney, and should i file charges for false statements made about me.

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After my sister served me with a restraining order, to prevent me from seeing my Mother, we went to Court. The Judge asked a few questions and dismissed the case. Now I have found that this sister has canceled my mother's telephone service, leaving her with a cell phone. My mother has never been able to use a cell phone - my sister not only left her with no ability to place or receive calls, she then went out of town. It looks like she is trying to isolate my mother. Is this considered abuse?
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Call your local area agency on aging and adult protective services to discuss these issues.

Start there. You may need to seek guardianship.
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My sister served me with a restraint Order, that my mother said she didn't sign, went to court & the judge dismissed it. But now, after 6 weeks of not being able to see her, my mother is mad at me. My sister is trying everything to get control of her finances. My mother is 91 and has dementia. But in this 6 weeks my sister has been lying to my mother, saying I am not trustworthy, etc. I am succ trustee, POA, executrix. What can I do? Thanks
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Your mum has Dimentia for sure or behavioural issues or side effects from medications!
Gather all mums medical records! Make copies! Get character records!
Request a police investigation! Most older people with mental problems or medication abuse or serious side effects or just plain madness make up stories to get the family to visit them ! Also your mums medical illness makes her distort things for instance if she tried to hurt herself and you stopped her she may due to meds & dimentia... Or just her bipolar personality get confused! Anyway you hotta act fast and get evidence and get a close friend to help you! Here what usually happens almost everyone with dimentia will say you are bashing them & they , your mum gets confused!!
Tell the doctors & go to the hospitals & get all medical reports .... Get a lawyer regardless cause this way no ine can manipulate your words!!!
And stand your ground!!!
Shame on the family who listen to your confused ill mum!!
The police sounds like they can & are pursuing you!!!
Wrongfuly
But will not stop!!
You mum wants attention!!
She is manipulative & knows what to do to create chaos gor you!
Do not worry!
Act fast seek legal aid now!!!

The police get it wrong most of thr time!
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skip123, regarding service dogs and hotels, if the dog is a legit service dog and you have the paperwork, hotels cannot discriminate against you. Strange, I never heard of Great Danes being service dogs, can you elaborate on that for us please.
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I've one brother 58_two sisters60 and54_I'm 53 taking care of mom with dementia by myself.wells Fargo took moms home illegally after 33 yr siblings would not help mom so I've don e best i can with my ssi disability and moms too.still not enough for a month in hotels and its hard to find any to rent to us with
Our service dogs, so plenty of nights. Me mom and two great Danes kept us warm in the Honda threw winter.I found a motel run down which is one room but a shower and a fridge,a stove all luxories as is not walking up with a parking break in your shoulder and a160 pound great Dane on top of you.now we are indoors but the cars gone.mom has not much memory except she thinks I'm my dad and goes threw rages as she thinks I've been cheating on her.I can't do what everybody says"get rid of the dogs"moms luv for the dogs so great its all we have left and my dad was an ent specialist plastic surgeon who left luxories wells Fargo hauled the contents of her home away also illegally.
So now she's talking in her sleep normal as if somebody is talking to her.when awake she can't make sense as words don't connect.also her appitite is poor.not that we have much food. Its as if a bad dream instanl y came true.but I never dreampt ever life would come to this.oh got to go moms awake I've got to help her she's also almost blind. I have found that even though I don't walk into a beautiful home full of antiques baby grand stienways Persian rugs art work ect.I know the best thinng I'm grateful for is the Hart still beets.its my wish all you are blessed too.I'm figuring all this new insideous disease out alone as siblings called APS nine times to finding it false report.if I found a nursing home had Abused my mom I'd have a place to live alright,behind bars.people who abuse the elderly I won't comment on the punishment they need.I'd I guess I will.e execute them and it will stop happening.you see why dogs are better than most humans ?
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My Identical twin sister happens to work for the Oregon Department of Human Resources and I'm fairly certain that she was behind the false report of Elder Abuse just recently filed against me, thankfully the claims were unsubstantiated .... but the following day my sister called the local police department and attempted to have me arrested by making a bogus police report that she feared I had attacked my 70 year old mother! Again, no charges were filed and the matter was dropped, which I found satisfactory. I'm not, however, willing to just let this report of Elder Abuse against me be swept under the rug and just forgotten! I'm a respected member of my community and for the past 3 months my husband and I have been living in an RV in the back yard of my parents and caring for my 70-year-old father who was recently diagnosed with terminal Glioblastoma Brain Cancer. My father means the world to me and I would NEVER harm him in ANY way! I've been trying to find out find out everything that I can about the Elder Abuse claims filed against me, but so far I have been running into one brick wall after another, and I'm sure that it has a lot to do with the fact that my sister works for DHS! I tried to get a copy of the actual report that was made against me, but according to the APS caseworker, I'm not able to access a copy so that they can protect the victim (my father) - which just doesn't make sense to me! The claims against me were found to be UNTRUE, therefore it only seems fair that I be able to read the alleged claims! I made it perfectly clear to the case worker that I wasn't trying to breach any confidentiality laws or anything of that nature, I just wanted to know what the complainants allegations of Elder Abuse against me were, and I would think that I'd that right! I personally feel that I'm getting the run-around ..... If anyone knows what the Law is on this subject, I'd be interested in knowing! Thanks!
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Our stories are very similar. I also gave up a well paying job and my life as to not put my mom in a nursing home. I feel your pain on being devastated over the false accusation. I have been in touch with a few attorneys with what I can do to protect my name and as soon as I get an answer I will certainly let you know. Hang in there!
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Please be so careful for their is so very much guardianship abuse and exploitation..I lost my innocent loving mom who was my world
Fabrication lies by APS when asking for help to get my mom to the hospital which caused a corrupt guardian in Florida to take control of my mothers life and personal property all gone and heartbroken forever..never allowing my mother to be with her yorkie and cat who were her world along with her grandson, childhood friend, family. My mom was put in dumpy nursing homes and locked up like a prisoner for the last year of her life...abused broken bones over drugged causing hypothermia and 3 feeding tubes causing severe infections and she did not even need it...the 3rd time killed her and begged it be stopped.The Harvard hospital, Jewish for the aging and other top hospitals even stated that was cruel and unethical....so I caution you it can be a living nightmare since so many of us loving our parents are destroyed by guardianship abuse and more from strangers and corrupt judges who break apart and destroy families forever...I even stated keep her money just give me my mother back...please contact me if you like. Their are so many of us hurt and traumatized forever and would be here for support and help anyone who needs it ...
It's too much to tell in one comment but contact me if you really need the support for a group of us want to save those elder parents who are innocent and you a loving son or daughter needing advice and support to keep your elder parents safe and in the arms of their loved ones...
Heartbroken for my mom
Jill
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This too has happened to me but from my siblings who dont want to give my mom the time of day. I guess for their own guilt. I really dont know why. But they did an investigation and just closed my case last week. They investigate for 30 days. 1 thing that helped me is that I had her pcv document that my mom was saying untrue things and she did and ss did go to her and ask her questions. I have always been the only 1 in my parents life ( I have 4 other siblings) so plenty of people have seen me in drs., stores, walking, even before she was sick. I didnt fear nothing because I knew it was falsely accused but it angered me something awful. I just think " Why would they say something like that just to have her taken away, and then who would step up to care for her" None of them want the job. They never asked me for help or never said they wanted to care for her so that is the reason I said I dont know why. But God sees ALL. And as long as you are doing right by your mom Nothing else matters. It is hard when your mom is the accuser too. My mom did it because I would go shopping without her or go to dinner with my husband. She gets very angry if I leave her. But I simply remind her that I have my own life separate from her. She has to live with it. I care for my mom and at the time my dad too till he passed away 10 mos. ago. So if you arent at fault do not worry. God sees us thru it all..... God Bless You.....
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