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In time your mother will acclimate to her new surroundings. Be at peace now.
I'm sure you were told by staff to stay away for at least 2 weeks, and I hope you're abiding by that, otherwise it makes things even harder for your mom and the staff.
Your mom needs time to adjust to her new surroundings and the staff, so please allow her that time. And rest in the knowledge that she is now receiving the 24/7 care that she needs and that she will be safe.
Please, no guilt. You did what you needed to do. You have to work and her care became too much. She will learn to except where she is as home. And the home she is talking about could be her childhood home. I have pushed any guilt I have had to the back of my brain. I was always there for my parents. Always there for my girls. One I have taken care of her boys. There for my DH. My Mom was in a nice AL and later LTC. The staff loved her so she was well taken care of.
I can guess that it probably just wasn't safe for her to be alone while you were working, and if it was just the two of you, then it would be impossible for you to have a life and support yourself and watch her 24/7 at the same time. So there really was no choice but for her to go into a Memory Care. I can imagine this is SO hard on you with her wanting to come home and I can understand why you'd feel really sad right now.