Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
True success is figuring out your life & career so you never have to be around jerks.
keep in mind also that narcs stick up for other narcs.
“I never realized how bad she was because I wasn’t that close to her for a long time.”
i see what you mean.
yup, narcs can’t keep up the facade forever. eventually their true nature comes out.
Sadly she has a lot of my mother’s traits. They are not nice ones.
But after 6 months of stupidity is still there that's another ball game.
The problem is I drew the short straw and am working with the attorney on my father's Medicaid and money that needs to be returned to the state from the sale of the house. I need her help right now and she is psychologically abusing me withholding the information I need. I don't want to get into the sadistic-ness of it online but I really think she is mentally ill. Even my husband who alway tells me I am overreacting is finally seeing this.
I really don't know what to do. She controls the estate trust account and my father's checking account and if she is not giving me the information the attorney is requesting. I don't know what will happen.
I will go to my grave hating my mother for putting my sister in charge of this. If you want to know why I am the one dealing with the attorney, it is because my sister had an argument with the paralegal and does not want to deal with them anymore, The argument was so bad that the paralegal actually called me and told me she refuses to work with my sister. People in nearly every capacity: nurses at the nursing home, the lawyer's paralegal, the funeral director, the real estate agent, the manager of the bank all have told me how rude and nasty she has been with them.
I just don't know what to do. Don't even know where to dump this it is so toxic. So I am leaving it in this place.
Evidently, there was something wrong with my most recent post about my referral being rejected.
Otherwise, my doctor here increased my Neurontin at night from 2 to 3 pills. I slept for 7 hours strait last night. That has not taken place in months! We will see about tonight.
Very interesting anyways
today’s words of wisdom:
CHANGING YOUR DUVET COVER:
1. Remember to use your energy sparingly. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
2. Make sure you stay hydrated.
3. Don’t panic.
So I became the treat"
A quote I read on Instagram, not sure who said it. But it's soon true
“Don’t allow someone to treat you poorly just because you love them.”
Hold my halo.
I'm about to do unto others as they have done unto me.
Pre-annoyed (adjective)
You knew this person is about to p***ss you off even before they say anything.
“Be the reason everyone else needs therapy.”
R is doing better. Yesterday he was pleased as he remembered something he thought he would not have remembered earlier. I would agree - I see him slowly doing better memory wise and the aches and pains are easing with PT and some meds. I hope the neurologist can do something about the dizziness which is better, but still there. According to the PT, it's a disconnection between his brain, his eyes and his ear balance organs. He doesn't feel it when he is sitting quietly.
I agree, Your husband should be thankful that you care enough to schedule appointments and go with him. I know you don't have an easy relationship. Definitely as we age healing takes longer.
Take care and enjoy those grandkids and pets and keep us updated.
now that I know he had sepsis and pneumonia, I understand better what is going on with him. Dr said it will take up to 3 months for his organs to completely recover. Covid brain fog is a real thing we were told today
Success (noun)
Walking from failure to failure until you win.
i hope everyone has a sunny day.
Sorry to hear about your husband. That does not sound good.
Yes, I do have such a thing on my phone, but I need to make it loader to get my attention.
My hubs got up this morning asking me if we were back from our vacation East of here. He said we were staying in a house exactly like ours, even the furniture was the same. My cats were there and very comfortable with the surroundings. I asked him a few minor questions since my goal was not to cause any alarm for him or to argue about it. Then I said have you eaten breakfast, he said no. I said let’s go out for breakfast (this was to redirect his thoughts). This has been very alarming to me after having two parents with Alzheimer’s. Yet I’m reading about how Covid brain fog is very real. My hubs will not admit he is struggling even to the dr. I’m going to call the dr office Monday.
"Those who make you feel uncomfortable have no business being comfortable around you."