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Are there any programs to pay a child to be able to stay home and care for their sick parents?

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I now live in North Carolina. My parents went to visit my sister in NC last August and my Mother fell ill found herself in the hospital. The whole family was called in anticipating Mom's death. However, we were luck, she pulled through after spending about 3 1/2 months in the hospital and rehab care. My father is bound to a wheel chair and my Mother had been his caregiver, but since the incident has not been able to help him. Toward the end of September, I took a leave of absence from my job (FMLA) to go from Georgia to live with my sister to take care of my parents. During December I had to resign from my job to continue to care for my parents. Are there any programs that will help me to offset the costs associated with this situation?
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Kittkattz, the facilities are there to help us grown children give our parent that extra level of care when we cannot be working 3-shifts of care. And it gives us time for us to get back to the workforce so that we can have our own retirement fund.

It's my understanding that Hospice will take care of a patient no matter where they are, at home or in a continuing care facility.

As I had mentioned earlier on in the above post, majority of grown children do not get paid unless their parent can pay them from their own retirement funds. Consider yourself fortunate that in your State you were able to be paid by the State government.
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Hi my name is Kat and I live in VT. My mom is on choices for care.I get paid to take care of her personal care and for respite hours. I think sooner then later she is going to need Hospice Care and I read the choices for care handbook which if I read correctly says that you are not eligible for Choices for Care if on Hospice Care. I can't go back to work and leave her and I won't put her in some kind of a facility. My mom has congestive heart failure, a broken hip, 3 lumbar fractures and now esophageal cancer. She now has a GI bleed and will need more blood transfusions in the future. Is there some kind of program that would help me with a paycheck or stipend so I can still pay my rent and other bills when I have to put her on Hospice Care?
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I live in Il and I have parents that need care and I would like to know if I took care of them would I get paid by the state
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buggy50, majority of grown children do not get paid for caring for their elderly parent, unless the parent is financially able to pay from their own funds. If a parent can afford to pay you, the parent might as well hire a certified trained caregiver… thus allowing you to keep your full-time job and benefits, if you are working.

Check to see if your parent could qualify for Medicaid…. each State has different income/eligibility requirements the parent must meet. If your State has such a program to pay a grown child to care for a parent, you might feel your parent needs 12 hours of care, the program might decide only 5 hours. And you may need to take some health care courses to qualify. Plus there is a question as to if the State will pay a relative if he/she lives full-time with the parent. Be aware that there are waiting lists to sign up for these programs.

Check with your local Council on Aging to see what is available for an Aide to come to the house for a couple of hours. Caregiver burnout comes quickly, in a matter of months for some.
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i live with my sister we take care of both of our parents in Utah, our mom had a stroke that ruined her short term memory's a year and a half ago and our dad had a stroke last year it affected his left side not like my moms, he is a little slow forgets somethings he fell and broke his right hip and has had two seizure's, how would we go about seeing if we can get paid to take care of them
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singlemother, tell your Mom she doesn't get to make the choice. You have to work to help feed your children and to keep a roof over their heads, otherwise everyone would be out on the street. So, it's either living on the street or having the State pay for someone to come in to help [if the State offers such program].
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thank you but my mom dont want no one but me to take care of her so i dont know what to do
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Singlemother, whatever you do, do not quit work. See if the State might help you with a caregiver who comes in to help while you are at work. Otherwise, if you quit work you will lose your seniority, and lose whatever benefits you are getting [if any]. Your work will become your place to escape when times get tough at home.
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i need help i am working but i am thinking i am going to have to stop every soon here because my mother has had lung cancer and now has leukemia she has a hard time walking without holding on to me she can show alone and no longer can do laundry she cant drive to appts no more and i cant keep missing work it is just me and her plus my three girls i am a single mother can i get paid for taking care of my mother so i dont have to work no more to be with her 24 hours i live in aurora colorado
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Hi. I live in Sarasota, FL and am a certified CNA. My mother just had a stroke and will need 24 hour care at home. A friend suggested that I could be paid by the state for taking care of her. She has congnizant issues and cannot be left alone. Do you know where/who I can go to see about funding/programs in my area? Thank you.
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My mother has alzheimers and dementia. Her health has been declining and I don't feel comfortable with her being alone. I tried to get her to move in with us but she will not leave her home. She also doesn't like strangers, so the thought of someone we don't know taking care of her is kind of scary because she can be quite unmanageable at times. I do have my family to take care of but she is extremely important to me. Is there any programs in Arizona, specifically Tucson that would help me with this situation. I would love to be able to be there for my mother but also have to provide for my family. So if i could get paid to take care of her it would kill two birds with one stone. Thank you for your time. Ares
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in green bay ares, i care for my mom and dad,both disabled, where do i call for info about getting paid for this?
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hi my name is jakie i live in philadelphia pa and i have a brother dat have rsd and he cant not do any thing he want me to find out if i could get pay for it but i am going to do wt it take for him to get better please i need some help
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My mother has been fighting cancer for many years and I have been her main caretaker. She has lived alone since my Dad died and is very independent. But now the cancer has become very agressive, and has only a few months left to live. She will need someone fuime to care for her. I would like to spend this time with her, but I work and can not afford to take the time off. Is there any help out there for me.
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I have started taking care of my stepdad that has raised me from just a small infant, I live in the state of alabama and I was wondering if I could get some kind of benafits for that. he has cancer of the throat and has to be feed through a feeding tube inserted in his stomach. please if there is any information that anyone has that can help me I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you, Ray
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How can care for a parent that is visually impaired
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hi my name is jose sandovalI would ask you something, are there any program that will pay me to worry grampa to be able to stay in home and take care my grandsons and daughter, until she and I start working she has tree kids, thank you, jose
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hi my name jose sandoval, I would ask you something I AM worry granpa about my grandsons and daughter, thank you,are there any program to granpa to be able to stay in homeand care my grandsons and daugther let me know please thank you jose sandoval
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i am trying to find the number to call because i take care of my mom who has ovarian cancer i take 24 7 care of her and need to get paid to do this if some colud help me out with a phone number
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Blessings to you, Sacrificing Daughter, for taking care of your parents! I pray your needs are cared for, and you receive some help. I don't think you could sue, because you didn't enter into a contract with them, did you? But you can ask tell them your Mom's needs and ask them to help with that. We give by choice because we love our parents. Often this is done at personal cost and expense. Not everyone appreciates this, and many do not understand. Your rewards are personal, as well, and eternity will know the difference. Praying for you. A
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My parents have lived with my husband and I for 19 1/2 years. Nine years ago my dad died, leaving only my mother with us. During those 19 1/2 years my husband and I have provided a home to my parents, transportation, financial, emotional and spiritual care. I have two older brothers one in New Jersey, one in Maine. Neither have contributed one cent to my parents for their care. I lost my last job because of the time I had to take off to care for my dad when he became ill, in the weeks preceding his death. Since that time my mother's health has gone down hill. I am her caregiver, take her to doctor's appointments, and for this reason can't really work outside of the home. In the last few years my husband's business is down, and we are struggling, really struggling. I have asked my brothers for help over the years, but they have done nothing. It is at a point where my husband and I could lose our home. I have told my brothers that they will either have to take care of mom, or pay for her living arrangements. My question, can I sue my brothers for all of the years that I have sacrificed and cared for my parents, giving up part of my own life, my privacy, my marriage?
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My parents have lived with my husband and I for 19 1/2 years. Nine years ago my dad died
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i stay with my mom who has parkenson in the day so my father can work . we are trying to keep from sending her to a nursing home .can i get any help in tennessee? kay
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Thanks :) I will have her check into this.
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I took care of my Mom for 6 years in Arizona. She had a case manager through her insurance company (through the state), and I was able to get paid 20 hours a week taking care of her. The catch was that I had to have caregiver training, which I did. Check on whatever insurance she has and ask. Most times these programs are available and noone knows it. I still had to work full time but the extra pay really helped.
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I live in Arvada, Colorado and my mother stays home to care for my two children while I go to work. One of them has had a liver transplant and she is now also taking care of my 86 yr old grandmother who recently had congestive heart faliure and her heart just stopped. She had a pace maker put in and now my mom is trying to care for my kids when I am at work and also my grandmother. I was wondering if you knew of any programs that would pay my mom for caring for my grandmother since she does not want anyone else to.
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I live in Las Vegas, Nevada. Both of my parents are retired and on Medicare. My father has some health issues, has been in and out of the hospital, and has fallen several times at home. I since have moved in with them to care for my father. Is there any programs that will pay me to stay home with them during the day as I am now looking for a night job.
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Hi Ramona,

You didn't say what state you lived in - which will make a difference. If you write back maybe someone from your state who is well versed in the rules can answer.

As far as the general question - - - If your friend is able to go through the process and does qualify for Medicaid it is important to understand that state programs typically do not pay in home caregivers for the entire day like the nursing home. as an example: The medicaid program in my state calculates total time based on the tasks required for ADL (assisted daily living) - - an example would be granting 15 minutes per load to do laundry - or 30 minutes for bathing. So the SW would come out - do an assessment and grant you X hours per month once the deductible was met based on your friend's monthly income - - the short answer is that you should call your area council on aging and talk to a specialist on the best way to proceed and whether it would be feasible. If you need help finding a specialist, call local senior centers - don't let someone offer to help you for a fee.
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