My 93-year-old mother has turned into the nursing home floozy.

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My 93yr old mother was the most judgmental person all my life. She has always been the first one to find fault or criticize others. She is now the nursing home "floozy" and I get the calls from the staff at the nursing home on inappropriate situations they pull her out of. They tell me it is not her fault she doesn't understand. Is anyone else dealing with this? Dementia is just the gift that keeps on giving. She is the "sweet" one all the staff just loves. I believe they call this Showtimers. I love the staff and they are my heroes in this journey I am on with my mother. I deal with most of this with a sense of humor, but this new side is a bit disturbing. While visiting her yesterday I sat with her and her friends at their table and she kept blowing kisses to all the men as they rolled into the dinning area, and they all blew kisses back at her. Oh my gosh I had a hard time keeping a straight face and not burst out laughing. All the staff setting up lunch would walk by me and smile or wink at me. I do so love the staff! I would appreciate any advise on dealing with this new behavior. I get the best advice from all of you!!!

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When my Mother was in her Nursing Home Floozy stage she thought the year was 1957 so....

As long as she is safe.
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Oh my gosh, you mean there are women in senior living who turn into Blanche [Golden Girls]?

Hmmm, maybe when I get that age I will finally get out of Tom Boy stage :P And start wearing dresses plus jewelry, and yikes even makeup besides lipstick.
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Love it. Agree let her be the staff sound excellent.
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As long as she isn't doing "the wild thing" it sounds innocent enough.

My older sister has been this way all her life. She has always been quite eye-catching and used to attention and now that she is approaching 60 she seems to be getting desperate. You can't be anywhere where there are men and there she goes. Even when I phoned her the day I found my Mom in big time medical distress and asked her to come over. She flirted with the paramedics, she flirted with a neighbor of mine when we were outside my place discussing Mom's finances. Just a random man and I finally had to tell the guy to piss off cause she was just standing there lapping up the attention. "I grabbed her left hand, showed it to him and screamed, "she's married!"

So, one day if she ends up in a nursing home "look out everybody"
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Yes. Yes. My super southern modest Mother bought herself some inappropriate 20 something clothing when she was still living in her home and driving. After she went to the Nursing Home Mother would peddle her wheelchair at great speeds chasing any man walking. The staff did have to keep an eye on her and they did.

The filter my Mother had that previously had her so concerned about her reputation, our reputation, everybody's reputation was out the window. My Mother was the Nursing Home floozy.

That stage passed. Then I missed the floozy.
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Unless they catch her "doing the wild thing", I'd let it be.

It's difficult to observe our parents being sensual/sexual. But that's how we got here!
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Staff really should try to rule out and identify those yeast infections. Some behaviors have a medical reason. imo.
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I'm reassured by what Ratherbefishing says about the staff's approach, that they appreciate why her mother is behaving like this and seem to be handling the situation well. My only concern would be if they weren't showing any concern for her dignity, but clearly they are keeping an eye open to make sure things don't get out of hand.
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Blowing kisses is innocent enough

Last summer there was a poor soul at mom's memory card who's libido was out of control and she had it bad for one resident to the point that the couch in the tv room was nicknamed the love pit - staff did nothing to stop it and it made unpleasant for everyone else
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My sister and I have the same issue. At first it was "OMG" since mom was always super southern modest. Now its like, so what if it makes her feel good. I don't think she gets many of those "feel good" moments these days.
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