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When POA Isn’t Enough: Other Forms Needed to Act on a Loved One’s Behalf

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I am the POA for my mom, I have sent all her creditors a letter stating that she can’t pay her credit card debit due to her health issues and have sent the the legal power of attorney. Some credit have come back as asked for my social security number, copy of my drivers license and my financial and employment information. I have not given the financial or employment information. As I am nit assuming her debit. Do I need to give them my Social security information or drivers license.

I am doing everything, at 68, to care for my husband, 82, with dementia. After 2 years of watching him fail, I now find my own stamina and health failing. I have reached out to family, friends, my support group, but I feel like a sinking ship with no interests. Just getting through one day us an effort if sadness and feeling sorry for myself. This has to change, but even the little steps I make to feel whole are not helping. I am lost.

Informative & helpful, THANK U.

When my husband and I first made our POAs, he had named our son and I named my daughter. Neither of us thought that might become an issue but now when I need to make a decision for my husband who has ALZ I have to ask my son. Thank goodness he handles it exactly the way we would want but I feel bad having to put the burden on him.

This is a good article. I have relatives who had trouble with hospitals honoring the living will, so that would be something that might need legal attention also.

Caring son 12 you are SO right. I thought I had everything covered with both my parents with a durable power of attorney. When my father died, everything went very smooth. Funeral arrangements, closing/changing bank accounts etc but my mother just now passed & my sibling who has never been in their lives is giving me all kinds of grief. The funeral home requested his signature for cremation & he is refusing to sign because he thinks he will get stuck for half the bill. They have told him I have already paid for it but he has threatened to call the police if anyone hassles him again. I did not have the correct paperwork signed by my mom for the cremation to take place.

Thank you for this article!

Excellent article on the subject. Thank you!

I waited too long to try to get power of attorney for my wife and had Togo through a legal process and appear before a judge to gain full guardianship of her.

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Before you take on the responsibility of caring for a parent be sure and have all legal documents your parents made reviewed by an attorney. Do not end up in the role of caretaker only to find out an uninvolved sibling can make the final health or financial decisions because of previously drawn up documents by your parents. Only take on the care taker role if you have full control over all decisions. I learned this lesson while taking care of my mother.