I'm not sure what to do but my 89yr old dad (who is still mobile - even drives) has decided to marry a 70yr old lady after dating her for 2 months. She goes to the same church as my Dad so we do know her a bit. She isn't well off and has been looking for a husband for the past 5 years. The week after my mom passed away, this lady began throwing herself at my dad. Even to the point where my dad ended up talking to one of his neighbors about it as he didn't know what to do. She has an aggressive personality, is outspoken, and very opinionated.
2 months ago, my dad finally gave in to her and told her that all he was after was was the companionship and had no intentions of getting married. Since then they started living together and now she is telling him to marry her or she is moving out. Currently I think she is putting extra pressure on my dad to get married as quickly as possible as she knows my family is moving back to where he lives in Jan and is concerned that we may complicate her plans.
My dad has talked to the attorney about a pre-nup but nothing has been created or signed. But even with a pre-nup she can still get to his funds by telling him to pull money out of his account. Most recently he told me that he was pulling money out of one of his accounts to pay off her house. Who knows what she's going to get next.
Yesterday one of my dad's next door neighbors went to dinner with my dad and his girlfriend only to get home and call me as they were in shock. They told me she was so manipulative that my dad was clearly not the same person. In fact, she told my dad's neighbor that since they made the arrangements for dinner that they should pick up the check. My dad was present during this conversation and didn't say a thing (BTW... it was my Dad who made the dinner arrangements). I think she is in the process of alienating him from his current family, friends, neighbors, or anyone who knew my Mom, even to the point of making his life miserable when he talks to them.
I just don't know what I can do to help my dad as he clearly isn't seeing what is going on. His friends and neighbors can see that she is clearly after the financial support and so can I. I've tried to tell him but he doesn't want to listen as this lady is clearly calling the shots. What can I do?