What should I do with my independent grandmother after my mom just passed away??
My mom passed away in May..totally unexpectedly. She was ill but we did not expect for this to happen. Her and my grandmother lived together in Nys in the smae apt for 31 years. I live in atl. I moved there 3 years ago with my husband and children. We were planning to move them both to ATL but mom died before we had the chance. Now my grandmother is by herself and she does NOT want to move to ATL. I am the only child. for my mom I have and aunt and cousin but they live in Canada. My grandma is very active in her senior center and very independent. She does almpst everything for herself. I tried to convince her by taking her for a week and she was like no way. Now, do I pack up my family and move back to nyc..or do i travel back and forth from nyc to atl and get a part time care giver for her. She says she will be fine and its up to me but I feel guilty and obligated.I am worried about her by herself. I really don't want to move but I am still feeling the guilt of my mom's passing as well. i feel i should have been here when she was sick but i did not know or expect what happened to happen.
I grew up here in ny but nyc is not the ideal place for my children who love the freedom of ATL. My husband would love to move here all his family is here and he would be happy either way. I like my space and home in ATL. Will it be ok for me to leave her here? sorry for the disorganization of this letter. So many different issues...please help..