My dad is 61 years old and currently taking care of his parents in his home. I'm concerned about his wellbeing (and theirs) because being their caregiver is really taking a toll on him. Part of the problem is that he thinks that he needs to take on all of their care by himself. While a caregiver comes in a couple times a week to bathe my grandpa, she's about the only outside help that he'll accept.
Friends of the family have offered to sit and visit with my grandparents to give my dad a chance to have a couple hours to himself outside of the house, and I've even offered to give him a break when I'm visiting. I've also suggested that we look into the local senior center/senior day care program so that my grandparents can have some social interaction with other seniors and my dad can take a much needed break.
My dad rejects all of these ideas because he is worried that my grandpa will either fall while he is out of the house, that my grandpa will be cruel and lash out while at the senior center (which is a possibility; I am at a loss as to what to do in this situation. I believe that something needs to change and fast, for the health of everyone involved, but I don't know what steps to take.
my grandpa does have a history of lashing out at people, including my dad), or that my grandma will be too sick to enjoy the senior center (she does get carsick easily). I've also suggested that my dad join a caregivers' support group so that he can at least vent some of his frustrations and share his stories in a community that can empathize/share meaningful advice. He attended one support group and hasn't gone back, citing previously mentioned reasons about not wanting to leave the house for too long.
I am at a loss as to what to do in this situation. I believe that something needs to change and fast, for the health of everyone involved, but I don't know what steps to take.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.