My 83-year-old dad is out of control, drinking and now being abusive and fighting. I live out of town. What can I do?
I live in dallas and dad in Chicago. My dad's girlfriend, who is great, God bless her, just called me and said my Dad is out of control. His habits changed recently. He has started drinking at 10am, he used to wait till 5, he is pushing people and cussing them out for little stuff, like getting in his way. Two women were dancing and dad wanted to dance with one so he shoved the other women off the dance floor and began dancing with the other. My God, she just told me that one. He is no longer eating much she said.
I don't know who his doctor is, but will his doctor see me if I can find him? Will he discuss my dad with me. Dad has become very perinoid. So getting any info out of him is impossible. He barely talks to me on the phone anymore. Just for a few seconds at a time. He usually finds someone else to give the phone too when he is at the bar with is almost always now.
Again I am not there, which is a guilt trip. This can only end badly. But what can I do, I will only have a week, I need to have a plan before I go to make the most of my time.
What can I do from a distance. He will not come here and live with me. He is well known in his home town and everyone know him there. I can not move, I own a business here. My brother is there but he is no help, as he himself is a mess. He drives drunk all the time, he has wrecked his car before, he takes tons of sleeping pills, he has no short term memory to speak of.... What does one do?
I can get home for a week and am going to go as soon as possible, but a week is not enough. Help.