I moved my Mom into my house back in Nov 2006 after she lived approx 120 miles away with my one sister whom I do not get along with, she has mental issues and has always been taken care of by my mother. Unfortunately, when my Mother's funds ran out, so did the sister. I had no other option but to move her in with me because she could not live that far away with no means to get around or have anyone to look after her. So my sister gave me about 2 weeks notice that she was moving out of my mother's house.
This was a very big change as I mainly had a "phone relationship" with my Mom for more that 25 years. My husband and girls and I have been very close always and without them, I would probably be crazy by now.
Anyway, after alot of remodeling on my Mom's house and trying to get her bills paid, she was extremely in debt with credit cards.
We finally sold her house and the financial burden portion of stress has been lifted. I was able to pay off her credit cards and put the balance into a savings account for her when she needs it.
My problem is that I am so unhappy having her in my house. I have always been a loner type and the thought of having someone sitting in that chair all of the time drives me crazy. Then there is the guilt for these feelings, I really do not know what to do.
My sister comes in and out of the picture and sometimes takes her for weekends, I am so happy during that time off with neither of them around.
I try to have a strict business relationship with my sister for my Mother's sake only.
There is more to this story, but for now I am just looking for a place to vent. I have been holding everything inside of me except for my understanding husband and girls.
Any advice that anyone has would be great.