Are there tools that will help keep me focused on loving my father who I take care of?
I moved him 3000 miles to live with my husband and I since where he lived, he had pushed everyone that ever cared about him, away. He tries to make them responsible for his misery and when they can't "fix" his emotions, he lashes out at them and they leave. I am the only one left who had an ounce of concern for him so we agreed that he would live with my husband and I, and now he is doing the same with us. He picks fights with my husband (barges into the bedroom or washroom), throws away food that I cook him only to blame me for his hunger after, and many other irrational behaviors. I know he is hurting but it hurts me more to see his misery. Does anyone have any tools that I can use to help keep me focused on loving him (instead of hating him which is that point I am at right now). I know I cannot change him. I know I am not responsible for his feelings. I know he needs love as he never had it growing up. I do not want to leave him despite his displacing his anger on us. I just want help finding a different perspective in which to see him so I don't kill myself in the process. Any thoughts?