Hi everyone, I have 2 parents under NH care with frail mental function ( stroke related depression, high anxiety, mood swings and middle dementia) Within the last 3 mos, I have found out that my absentee, only and oldest sibling has stage 4 cancer and last week, she suffered a major stroke.
Her children are at her side at her home, but we all have agreed not to tell my parents. Sis has distant herself from her family many yrs ago, and now she is going down fast, I'm trying to prepare myself for the inevitable and telling my parents of her passing.
How in the world do I do this? My Sister left me alone to care for OUR parents and now I am alone once again. My Mom gets so on edge about the smallest things, I don't know how in the world she will deal with this. I wanted to take her to visit my Sis but Sis doesn't want visitors and is very snappy with her kids, she is in a lot of pain. Truthfully Mom can't make this trip because the 6 hr round trip ride and the visiting time would be too much on her, but my Niece is asking me to come visit which I will.
Unfortunately, it seems like the last time they saw their oldest daughter this past Aug will be the last time.
I don't like not sharing this important information with my Parents but I need the help of a Million people to tell them their child has passed when the time comes, If you can help please do.