Should we tell my mom with Alzheimer's that my dad has passed away?
Dad had a stroke on 1/3/12 and passed away in the nursing home on 2/22/12. My mom was placed in an alzheimer's assisted-living facility a few weeks before dad died. I took her to see him in the nursing home often and they were very close (holding hands, kissing each other good bye). We were advised not to tell her when dad died. She doesn't ask about him often but will speak of him while reminiscing. On what would have been their 59th wedding anniversary, she called the house and wanted him to come pick her up. Lately, she has woken up in the middle of the night and is asking to speak to her husband. The staff at the nursing home has calmed her down and she goes back to sleep. I told them to let her call the house if she wants to no matter what time of the day or night. I live there now alone. Now that things have settled down and if she starts asking to speak to my dad, should I tell her that he has passed away?