How can I explain to my father that we cannot care for him at home?
My father fell over a year ago. Since that time he has been at a hospital, rehab center or in memory care. He has some issues with early dementia but is mostly of sound mind. He is wheelchair bound now and is unable to do any transfers, so needs constant skilled care. Every day he asks to come home. We CANNOT physically help him with hour to hour activities. He insists that we are holding him captive and that he can walk with a walker. When you offer him a walker to prove to him he can't we all end up on the floor, but he has no "memory" of this. My mother is trying to sell the house and will either move in with him or get a small apartment nearby when it sells. The question I have is this: how can we have this discussion without it sucking everyone's soul dry?. He is always trying to get everyone to help him escape. Is there any line of reasoning to help him understand that he is in the home because we can't care for him and keep him safe?