How do you talk to an ill, elderly parent about appointing a power of attorney for medical and financial matters?
My mother lives with me and my husband. She has diabetes, hypertension, congestive heart failure and renal failure. Her health is deteriorating and though she hasn't been tested, I think she is entering the beginning stages of alzheimers. My sister also lives with us and she has cerebral palsey. My mom was sole caretaker of my sister until her health starting failing and I had them both come live with me. My mom gets a social security check and a disability check on my sisters behalf. I don't know how long she will be able to continue handling these matters and she will not part with any finances she has control over. One goog thing is she does not own a home or any property. My problem is if I have to take over these things especially on my sister's behalf it will be hell and high water getting through the red tape. Can anyone advise me on where to start, particularly on speaking with her about the power of attorney.