How can we wean father off caregiver we no longer trust?

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We have caught caregiver talking down children to elderly father. He is very dependent on her just being around. She has become slack in her duties, as well.

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Lindy, I'm sorry but I don't understand the first part of your question....but is there a possibillity you can have a conversation with her first, and let her know you are not pleased with some of the things she is doing??? Maybe you could try that first, then let Dad know you may have to find someone else if she doesn't improve....it's so hard for them to adjust to new help, but if you are concerned about him in her care, then you must do what you feel is right for your dads welfare... hope this helps... let us know what happens...
My mother has Parkinson's also and was very attached to one of our caregivers. For several reasons, we had to let her go but I first discussed the situation with my Mom. I explained the reasons and although Mom was not happy, she realized it wasn't going to work out. I agree that some things can be worked through with gentle confrontation. However, in our situation, certain things were untenable. For instance, the caregiver wanted to be paid under the table and we report our caregivers' income to the IRS. I was sad that we had to do this but on a happier note, we have been able to find other caregivers Mom seems fond of.
I have a similar question. We hired a caregiver who showed questionable judgement. There were charges on Dad's credit card for a manicure and pedicure and clothing from a nursing supply agency. When Never kick you out
Sorry, I hit submit by mistake and don't know how to delete the partial answer.

Anyway, when I questioned the caregiver about the charges, she got defensive and went too my Dad and got him angry at me. We asked her to leave and not contact Dad because she was creating an unprofessional bond with him. She stayed away for a while, but recently we have found out that she is showing up at his house 3-4 times a week. He is spending money on meals for her (sometimes as often as 4 times in 2 days and putting gas in her car. We are not close by. Does anyone have any ideas on how to break this unhealthy bond?

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