I was appointed HCP and DPOA years ago by my Dad- he has been independent until a fall and broken hip-- he is in a rehab (poor care)--my sister is 5 minutes from Dad- and me 2 hours-- I am geriatric nurse practitioner and she a social worker.
She is a crazy maker and has been-- is one of the most toxic people on the planet-- She had told my Dad lies about me, and he told me he did not want to see me or speak to me--I was heartbroken--but felt that his health was in jeopardy--
Dad is paranoid at base- ran prisons-
I honestly felt it was best to relinquish my role- so she could focus her energies on him-- verses bullying me---I realize now it was a mistake--
I spoke with my Dad- he said he did not say he did not want me to be the HCP-
He is confused and frustrated--and my sister has big control issues-lies to the staff- his friends--anyone --and makes me look bad--she is an obstructionist beyond words-- that being the case I was having the most difficult time advocating for my Dad--who is in a sub-standard rehab- he has been screened for others-- but has an enacted HCP--VRE, and C-Diff.
Any advice-- much appreciated.