i have known her for 35 years and had a wonderful relationship with her i love her dearly we have never had a cross word until now. my husband upset her but she is taking it out on me and accusing me of being a liar and trouble maker. she is being very spiteful and nasty. I cannot seem to reason with her she shouts me down and calls me names. She seems the complete opposite with other family members crying and saying how ill she is and generating their sympathy. As she is so sweet and frail with them they are finding it hard to believe it when i tell them how aggressive she is with me. She is 76 years old and does suffer with arthritis and is constantly in pain. I have always been there for her but I am finding it increasingly difficult to be with her. What can I do?